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Finally realised I'm not the problem

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Finallyseeingthelight88 · 26/01/2024 17:55

After years of being told that everything I do is wrong, I'm useless etc I have finally realised its not me with the problem.

And all it took was an argument over a box of cornflakes!

DH gets upset if I open the bag of cornflakes all the way as it makes them go stake. Sometimes I forget but always fold the bag down. The last box I opened carefully, to the middle but where its been used for a few days its now about three quarters open. According to DH this isn't acceptable and on par with opening it all the way. When I got the sellotape out to fix it the argument started and I have been called an F'ing C - all over a box of cornflakes.

I am done. So done.

Everything I have done over the last few years has been wrong (I don't parent correctly, I don't work correctly, I work too much, don't give DH enough attention) and finally I have realised its not me

I am devastated and relieved at the same time

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SwordToFlamethrower · 27/01/2024 17:42

My ex use to have a go at me if I put ketchup on my chips rather than on the side of the plate.

This incensed my now husband when I told him and every time I put ketchup on my chips, he beams at me. If I put it on the side of my plate, he also beams at me.

pinkyredrose · 29/01/2024 11:33

VampireWeekday · 26/01/2024 21:40

That I work too much (wfh 3 days a week) and don't take enough breaks during the day to do the washing

Are you me? Mine rocks up at 3pm after his shift and has a go at me for not having cleaned the house or done the shopping during the working day. I have a much more demanding job than him and earn three times as much. But because I'm "at home sat on my arse all day " (really: because I'm a woman) he expects me to do all the housework. If I say I'd lose my job hs goes "yeah, yeah".

Get rid of him. Seriously.

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