I have a partner of almost 7 years, we have three children together (ages 6, 5 and just turned 2)
He has been unfaithful to me, more than once. I opted to stay with him and I know I will be judged harshly for that, but please believe I have my reasons.
The reason for my post;
The cheating and the effects of it has really damaged our sex life. Understandably, I think.
Any time he brings it up I have been suggesting we go to couples counselling to work through our issues and hopefully resolve them. I do love him, do want to be with him and am prepared to put in the effort on my side.
The problem is he doesn't want to go to couples counselling and never takes me up on it or makes any effort to look into it. He seems to think things can just go back to how they were before without any work done on the relationship.
He isn't a good communicator and shuts down / avoids difficult conversations so it's not even as if we've been able to resolve things by talking openly and honestly between us. Things have been discussed on a superficial level but nothing more than that. He's always quick to shut down and change the subject.
I feel like the only way we are going to be able to get back on track is to work through things in a therapeutic setting.
Do you think it's unreasonable of me to expect him to put some work in if he expects us to have a healthy sex life again?
I might show him the thread later on as I think it would be helpful for him to hear other points of view.