To buy this when I don’t know if baby is a girl or boy?

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Lighthearted.

I’ve seen an absolutely gorgeous fleece jacket. It is definitely more suited for a girl.

I don’t know the sex of the baby yet, so it could be a total waste of a purchase if it’s a boy. Though I’m sure new with tags it would sell very well on Vinted or make a nice gift for my friend expecting at the same time. I am just worried that if I leave it, it will go out of stock!

AIBU to buy it?

This is the first thread for a long time that has made me laugh to the point of tears. Your son needs to be "protected" from the horrors of a wee jacket that doesn't adhere strictly enough to masculine gender stereotypes You don't see him as worthy of unconditional love and protection if you buy him a striped jacked with a picture of a bee on it!

Ah good old Mumsnet, this has made my morning. Thanks for starting the thread OP. Needless to say, as long as he is warm and clean then dress him in whatever you want, he won't care or know any different. If you're lucky enough to bump into anyone like those above posters in real life you can enjoy the spectacle of them internally combusting at how unspeakably unmanly he looks.

If somebody referred to you as a man would you correct them or shrug and say it makes no difference. 🤷‍♀️

Sorry, when I meant buying clothes for your husbands I was thinking of things like Christmas presents, not that this was your job to do as a woman! It was late at night, that's my excuse. It's still stands though. If I'm looking for clothes for myself online I click on the women's section and not the men's section.

Women's and men's clothes are cut differently to take into account boobs, hips, narrower shoulders etc. Babies clothes are all the same fit.

I would and have just shrugged.

If I'm looking for clothes for myself online I click on the women's section and not the men's section.

This isn't about adults clothes.
Kids clothes are usually under 'kids' - they may or may not be divided into 'boys' and 'girls' but we used to look at both pre puberty. Tbh some of the 'girls' clothes would be too flimsy or skimpy or have silly slogans which I certainly wouldn't dress a boy in - but not a girl either!

I can’t see what’s ‘girly’ about stripes, a bee, and a rainbow. I would dress a boy in that. Who cares what some random person thinks about your child’s genitals.

I have a boy and no matter what I dress him in, he gets called a girl. Even when his hair was very short. If it’s a passing stranger who says, ‘what a cute little girl’, I don’t even bother correcting them. Who cares? If it’s someone I am going to see again, I say, ‘he’s a boy actually, just a very pretty one’!

I wouldn’t care at all. I would assume they struggled to see societal norms as I wear dresses.

I had my hair cut short when I was younger and was referred to as a boy, it didn’t bother me then, I’m not sure why you care what genitals a stranger thinks you have?

Get it! What a gorgeous cardigan. We were given lots of secondhand girls stuff for my baby boy. I didn't put him in any frilly dresses but I had no issue with pink and pastels. It's a baby who doesn't even see colour!

I wouldn’t, but that’s because I’m not a fan of pink so I wouldn’t buy it for my daughter either 😂. However DD has and does wear a lot of DS’s old baby clothes and has been mistaken for a boy at times, it doesn’t bother me & she’s too young to care or even know what’s going on.

If you want it then just get it, I definitely bought clothes that would be considered more boy-ish before both kids, you can decide when it fits them if you like it on them and either use it or sell it 🤷🏼‍♀️

My DS wore rainbows and underpants with kittens on and sparkly things as a baby/toddler. Why? Because I like colour and because as he got older he also liked colour and shiny things. He also wore tights (very practical under a romper!). He seems to be doing fine so far 🙄

Dress your baby however you like - gendered clothing is nonsense. It’s not a political statement to put a baby boy in a colourful jumper ffs.

I would have dressed my son in that. When he was around 2, one of our favourite items for him was a short sleeved gingham shirt that was a lovely shade of pale pink. We were not trying to break down any boundaries or use our child to show how liberal we were. It was just a nice colour that suited him. That chunky card can be unisex.

However, I do have my own limits. I would not have put a baby boy in a pale pink frilly dress, for example. Although I wouldn’t have done that for my daughter either as it’s not to my taste!

OP how long have you been on mumsnet? Everything is that deep. Especially stuff to do with gender!

I am not keen on those pastel colours so wouldn't put it on a boy or a girl, but I'd definitely buy a similar style in brighter versions.

It's okay but winters over until next year.

Where on earth do you live? anyway, its a fleece jacket not a heavy coat, very suitable for much spring and autumn weather. We don't know when the OPs baby is due or what size she's thinking of getting - it's maybe a bit chunky for a newborn.

I look at both sections because the women's section is often poor when it comes to pockets and I like pockets. I don't look for clothes for my husband.

We're also talking about babies, not adults who have gone through puberty and have breasts etc so some things from the women's section may fit better.

I wouldn't care if a random person referred to me as a man.

I'm delighted announce it's my opinion that I think it's inappropriate for warmer weather. Clearly I live in a less cold part of the UK.

@determinedtomakethiswork

It's making me laugh, all this faux naïveté. The fact is that when any of you go shopping, you look at the women's section. When you are looking for clothes for your husbands, you look in the men's section. Stop pretending otherwise.

Yes, I shop in the women's section, because women's clothes will fit me better - being designed for a woman's shape - because, you know, biology and physiology.

But that said, the type of clothes I wear could easily be described as masculine, as I always wear jeans or trousers and usually a jumper. I possess one pink jumper, all the rest are in various colours. Usually plain rather than patterned, and certainly not decorated.

And yet - no-one has called me a man so far.

Your comparison is a totally false one, as boys' and girls' clothes (at that age) are the same size. They are only distinguished from each other by some kind of perception of being gender-specific. It's only once you get to age 9/10 that boys' clothes are made bigger or cut differently.

I would say that’s a ‘girl’s’ jacket, rather than a unisex jacket. If you’d happily put a boy in it then absolutely buy it (the baby won’t care!) but I would prepare for some odd looks if you choose to correct people who assume your son is a girl.

I know it should be that there are just ‘clothes’ but in reality that’s not the case, and it’s far more common for a girl to be wearing blue than a boy to be wearing pink.

What are the differences between a girl/boy/unisex jacket for a baby?

I wear boxers instead of women's pants and I'm currently wearing my son's old jeans.

Boxers are comfy and the jeans have too much wear in them to throw away but he's lost weight and I'm fat.

My son nicked a black t-shirt of mine cos he likes baggy shirts to wear in bed .

Not everything has to be a statement you know.

I don’t think it’s controversial to suggest that baby clothes with a large amount of pink on them are primarily worn by baby girls. That rainbow has been modified to include extra pink, in fact. Something being from the girl’s clothing section doesn’t mean that boys can’t or shouldn’t wear it (hence the ‘girl’s’ with quotation marks) but I think most people would assume a baby wearing that coat was a girl unless told otherwise. DD has been mistaken for a boy plenty of times when she’s been wearing blue 🤷🏻‍♀️

As I said, the OP should buy it if she likes it. It is, after all, just a coat and will do a perfectly good job of keeping her baby warm.

Lovely. Our 3 year old grandson would choose that (and mum and dad would buy it).