To buy this when I don’t know if baby is a girl or boy?

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Lighthearted.

I’ve seen an absolutely gorgeous fleece jacket. It is definitely more suited for a girl.

I don’t know the sex of the baby yet, so it could be a total waste of a purchase if it’s a boy. Though I’m sure new with tags it would sell very well on Vinted or make a nice gift for my friend expecting at the same time. I am just worried that if I leave it, it will go out of stock!

AIBU to buy it?

It's gorgeous, definitely buy it. I'd happily put a boy in that. I'd enjoy correcting all the people who assumed he was a girl. I had people assume my daughter was a boy when she was wearing supposedly girly clothing, I suspect because she was a very chunky baby. Some people are so determined in their stereotypes.

I'd enjoy correcting all the people who assumed he was a girl.

🤔

So bizarre. What do you expect would happen if you put a baby with the “wrong” genitalia in this cardigan?

Just get it if it makes you happy.

I wouldn’t put it on my son because it’s just not him at all. Also looks girly to me. However I have some lovely nighties for newborns that are very feminine and used those for him and loved him in them. Each to their own!

The jacket might just be the start. If, as it has been explained to me today, a name is very important to one's identity then I suggest that sex is too.

Of course sex is important,
The colour of clothes has nothing to do with sex.

Sexed nappies??!! Jesus that has brought back a memory. They've not been a thing for about 30 years.

It is a girl cardi and I wouldn't put it on a boy

Aww that's adorable. Definitely would of put my son in that

What harm do you think will come to a baby wearing a rainbow baby jacket, exactly? It’s a baby. It doesn’t even know what its own sex is, let alone what colours mean. A baby is about as affected by the colour of its jacket as a dog is affected by the colour.

I’m 47 years old. There isn’t a single baby photo of me in which I’m wearing pink. I’m wearing blue or yellow baby-grows in all my newborn pics and then after that, I’m usually in red, navy, burgundy, green or light blue. I haven’t grown up confused and I was not a social experiment.

Oh I love it, buy it! My DS wears all his older sister's old clothes including pink unicorn sleepsuits. I gave away some dresses but some pink never hurt anyone!

@ErrolTheDragon what is a sexed nappy?

Sue, you’re shouting at cardigans

More absorbency up front for boys, further back for girls.

What about this cardigan makes it only appropriate to wear if you have a vagina?

I personally wouldn’t put this on either of my boys. Yes they have had to borrow clothes off my niece if needed at their house no big deal but this to me looks like a wee girls cardi. Each to their own tho. Looks like I’m vastly outnumbered in this opinion !

The harm will be the mother sees her son as a vehicle for the promotion of her fashionable ideas rather than a little fellow in need of her unconditional love and protection.
Although her post wasn't as extreme as mine, Toppitytop puts part of the argument extremely well on the previous page. I encourage you to read her post.

Omg I wish I hadn’t posted it wasn’t supposed to be this deep lol

It's a lovely jacket.

I'm feeling guilty now. I shouldn't have sounded off. Please ignore me and enjoy your child and buying them lovely clothes.

Both this thread and the one about the boy with long hair have given me the rage. Some people are so hung up on what is "appropriate" for a boy and girl. Why do people give a fuck if a boy wears pink or has long hair (or god forbid both at the same time!)

Decreeing that some colours are only appropriate for one sex nowadays is the epitome of a 'fashionable idea' though. It really is mere fashion. Boys used to wear frocks and they could be pink. 🤷‍♀️

Whatever anyone decides to dress their baby in will always be fashion and politics combined though. I dress my son in things I know others in my family wouldn’t and equally I have opinions on what clothing people buy for him. It’s a matter of taste. I want my son in a traditional christening gown and there are some who think it will make him look like a girl whereas I think he looks beautiful in it.

Clothes aren’t baby boy clothes or baby girl clothes. They are just clothes. I have DT’s - a boy and a girl. They wore babygros until they were about nine months old. They wore whichever babygros I picked up first - some days DD wore green and DS lilac. Others days DD wore orange and DS lemon. It doesn’t matter !

It’s adorable. I’d buy it and pass it on if you have a boy. The only thing that would make me not get it is if you’re secretly hoping for a girl and will feel very sad putting the cardigan away if it’s a boy. Maybe buy an equally adorable boy/unisex cardie too?

Why couldn’t a baby boy wear it?

Gorgeous I would have put it in any baby, they don't care neither do I.

Is it quite heavy? Will the age size map with when your baby will fit it? I made the mistake of buying our of season clothing a few times because I loved them.