Judgy comments about C-section

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Did anybody else experience judgemental comments from friends/family when they told them that you'd opted for a c section?

I had many complications with my first birth which was to be quite honest traumatic and ended up in an EMCS. I guess I could try for a VBAC but I'm terrified it will end in another emergency.

I don't think I am being unreasonable for wanting/hoping for a more calm experience this time. But family & friends have been so judgy when I've mentioned.

It's making me question my decision and I'm having to justify myself everytime when people are asking the reasons why. Even the midwife told me today the consultant will likely try to push me for a VBAC.

Why is this?

Bloody hell, they need to mind their own business! I don't know if I'd actually do it, but I'd be tempted to say "I don't want to discuss my vagina, thank you".

I’ve had both emergency and elective sections, personally wouldn’t have gone down the VBAC route due to fear of rupture and an age gap of less than a year.

I found recovery the second time round so much easier probably as I knew what to expect so could prepare a lot better physically and mentally for what was coming. With my first no indication I’d need a section until the day it happened after being diagnosed with HELLP syndrome and not having the time to try and be induced which looking back was for the best for me.

It's nothing to do with anyone else. You do what's best for you. I had two VB so I can't comment on a CS. But you've done it before and know what to expect. As long as mum and baby are healthy that's the main thing, not how they were delivered.

Not in the UK and largely private medical care. I told the specialist that I didn't want to try a VBAC as I was worried about my scar rupturing. He said that sounded very sensible. I wouldn't share personal details with people who make those kinds of negative comments. They've probably got drooping pelvic floors.

Your body & baby = your choice. Perhaps ask them to google Uterine Rupture in VBAC and the risks to mother and baby. That might make them think differently. Good luck you do not have to justify your choice to onlookers.