I hate my en-suite

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I'm sure this has been discussed before but ...

In our former house we had a bathroom off the hallway.

We've just moved and now have an en-suite.

I'm hating it.

My husband gets up in the night to use the loo and turns the bathroom light on. I can hear everything too!

Then in the morning, he wakes me again as the light goes back on and I can hear him use the loo, shower, clean his teeth etc.

Why do most people seem to love en-suites as I certainly don't! A bathroom off the hall, outside our bedroom, is much better!!!!!

Never been in a hotel room?

I’ve been in houses with proper bathrooms attached to bedrooms but it does seem that most are cheap add-ons. No wonder people complain.

yep
and the en-suite hasn’t been akin to a converted cupboard

That the point. They just need to be built properly.

I do appreciate that many homes do have a lot of space but doing something badly is often worse than not doing it.

i think you misread

my experience if uk en-suites is not how you describe them 🤷‍♀️

Why would a man turn on the light in the middle of the night to do either. You park yourself on the seat and release. There’s no aim needed.

Partly as it’s v late here.

People are complaining about en-suite bathrooms but they wouldn’t do if built properly. Clearly walls are too thin and layouts seem unsuitable. A better build quality would mean fewer complaints.

Referring to them as akin to cupboards was sarcasm/hyperbole, which I thought would be obvious, not a literal description. Can’t be that far off with the apparent paper-thin walls.

I'm not ancient - in my early 60s, but old enough to have lived in houses where there was no inside toilet at all. We 'went' in an outhouse. In the London house I lived in this was a sort of brick built outhouse outside the kitchen with a proper flush toilet. When I visited my grandparents in a rural area it was a sanilav arrangement attached to a barn a few yards away. Each facility meant there was absolutely no chance of the dreaded 'poo particles' floating into the bedrooms.

They also meant that if we wanted to go in the middle of the night we couldn't use the facilities we had to go in a bucket stored under the bed. There were too many of us sleeping in one room for a more classy chamber pot to be an option. God only knows what we inhaled as we slept/carried the bucket out for emptying.

DH (same age as me) grew up in a council flat a quarter of mile from London Bridge. They had the luxury of a proper flushing toilet but that toilet and bathroom were outside the flat and shared with the other three flats on their landing.

My paternal granny owned a very big house in Clapham. It was divided into 3 flats. She lived on the top floor and rented out the ground floor and first floor. All three floors shared the one and only first floor toilet.

DH and I and all our many siblings and cousins (none of whom were killed by these primitive arrangements) are the very tail end of the baby boomers. I think we prove that whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger. That includes the minute levels of poo particles we have all inhaled our entire lives.

That being said, I now divide my time between three homes and I'm very grateful for my en suite in every one of them.

I've got to ask this as I'm starting to think I'm a bit thick

Surely if you put the loo seat down before you flush there aren't poo particles or am I missing something

I'd be investing in a good old fashioned chamber pot!

I love our en-suite! The previous owners changed the standard semi-detached 'box' 3rd bedroom into an ensuite off the master bedroom. It is served by its own sealed water tank, allowing a good waterfall shower experience and, most importantly, two functional bathrooms that can be used simultaneously. It has a good bay window, good ventilation, and a working fan. It has been built with solid walls (existing house walls). Our loft has two double bedrooms with wardrobes instead of a typical loft bedroom and bathroom. The downside is that it is roadside - but we have shutters that allow for the top 1/3 to be open and visible louvres to face upwards, ensuring privacy but allowing in good light. I do feel it is an extension of our master suite, but there is no way it is the bedroom space! It is two unique spaces! Not having an external window in my toilet rooms is a big no for me! I hate under-the-stairs toilets more - why have something so private in the middle of the busiest hallway?