DNA test

[Sunshin80]

Hi all, AIBU to feel upset about this...

Me and partner been together for over 10 years now. 2 children together one is 11 and one is 3. He is asking for a DNA test for the younger one as he has trust issues with anyone he's been with. The main reason that doesn't help with this is the fact the younger one has blonde hair and blue eyes and the older one brown hair brown eyes. Also worth adding he has another child with his ex who also has brown hair and brown eyes. I feel like just because our youngest has broken the mold and come out with more traits on my side he's now questioning it and it's eating him up a little inside. None of us have blue eyes we have brown and green and he has dark hair and I am quite fair. My aunt and uncle both have blue eyes and blonde hair so it's in my side. He also went to see family members and they said to him "who does he look like because he doesn't look like any of us" ( I was fuming at this as I felt it a really uncalled for comment ) my main reason for posting is I just feel really down about the whole thing and it makes me sad for the younger one aswel. He doesn't treat him any different at all and I'm also not bothered about the results as I know full well what they would say 100% no doubt about it. I also have never given him any reason to doubt me i might also add. Just feeling a mixture of emotions really

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Yes they can.Eye colour is determined by about 6 genes and the parent can pass on a copy of each.

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41433-021-01749-x/figures/2

It's not that simple. Multiple genes are thought to play a role in eye colour now. https://www.allaboutvision.com/eye-care/eye-anatomy/eye-color-genetics/

His insecurities and the way those insecurities won't end with a dna test.
I'm so sorry that you're being put through this OP. This must be so upsetting for you.

Get the DNA test done, and when it's proved he is the father as a minimum I'd be telling him to arrange therapy for himself and for us as a couple to unpick the causes of this situation happening and the fallout for your relationship. For me, I don't know if I could come back from an open declaration of mistrust. Without trust, is there a relationship at all?

Thanks everyone ❤️

It’s definitely not a normal thing for your partner to ask of you and you should be upset. My DS looks nothing like my DH and only like me and my side of the family. Everyone jokes that I’ve somehow made a male clone of myself with none of my husband’s DNA. DH has never questioned if DS is his because he trusts me. If he didn’t I would have to rethink the whole relationship.

Update for everyone... DNA test results came back today and obviously the child is his! Knew that already of course. As for relationship I'm going to enjoy the grovelling and see how things go. I certainly won't be putting up with anything else that's for sure. Thank you everyone

Glad that that is settled @Sunshin80 (for him). Hope he is going for counselling as his reaction is not normal or reasonable (even with his family stirring). If he is not, personally I would be pushing for it big time. And yes, he has a lot of making up to do.

I feel like saying congratulations even though nothing has changed and you have had something confirmed that you knew all along!

@Sunshin80

Congrats! Although you already knew the result so it's more congrats on having something to wave in his face! :)

Enjoy the grovelling!