Not coping well as a working mum

[Absolutekyfine]

I am a working mum and single. Ex absolutely will not help in the week, he is work obsessed, I have explained to him many times that I need help and he will not budge on this. Same for some weekends if he can’t possibly leave the lab for research.

I am finding things hard. Dc is 16 months and I’ve been back from mat leave 10 weeks now. This morning for example I’ve been awake since 6, dc not feeling great/a bit off, so I’m not sure whether to even take to nursery, car completely frozen over and will have to leave dc in house while I wait in the car or take them in the car while it de frosts which took 10 minutes of crying non stop the other morning, then drive to nursery and back which is 40 min round trip, dc will cry snd I will feel terrible on the way home, I will inevitably be late back to work and then be waiting in case I need to collect dc early, then the night will begin again and I feel like im juggling so much that im just existing and not living. Evenings are living in a pig sty as I can’t keep up with washing or cleaning, I try. Im being a shit mother and employee. Is this how it is now? I can’t cut hours I have no money as it is.

I don't think people are telling her that's the best option. More that it is an option that is available. It doesn't sound like the poster wants to anyway which is fair.

As much I agree with the first part of your post, and discourage people giving up their paid jobs to claim benefits, I really think the second half of your post is awful. How to make someone feel more shit than they already do by adding a comparison that others are doing more. Maybe think about what you could do to someone in a vulnerable headspace with your statements.

Op, I'm sorry you feel this way. I am not a single mother, but often feel like I am. My child will be 2 in just over a month, and I still get snowed under at times, but it is getting easier, once I get on top of the washing pile I do a wash every day and hang it up (whilst removing and putting away the stuff that was hung up the day before).
I have a hairy dog so have to hoover pretty much every day anyway, but I take a few hours once a week (on an afternoon that my child is with her gran) to blast in the cleaning, dusting, mopping etc). Do you have someone that could take your child or even come and help you get on top of things to begin with?

@Absolutekyfine How are you doing OP?