Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

OP all of that is vital information which explains why you weren't working full time. Please contact a solicitor, if you were subjected to abuse you would be entitled to legal aid for a solicitor. The facts here indicate that you may well be able to make a claim for a decent split of the assets. Also, the total length of your relationship counts not just the time you were married so if you dated for 2 years before marrying they will take into account a 9 year relationship not just the 7 years you were married.

Are you being disrespectful to me? My "knowledge of british history"?
Are you serious? I live in the UK!

Well, British has an upper case B if you want to be pedantic.

I hate to think what kind of nanny you were as you appear to be very angry here if anyone dares to say you've got the wrong idea.

Honestly, what you are saying is that women like me who started work in the mid 1970s, lived through the times of Woodstock (you won't know what that was!), wore hippy beads, long skirts- oh and minis too- are lying.

You're negating our lived experiences.

What are you talking about? You do realise that the vast majority of Mumsnet users are women in their thirties and forties most of whom will have grown up in the nineties with working and middle class working mums. I was born in 1986 and my mum was a middle manager for social services. She stopped work when she had children but only for maternity leave, returning part time until we started primary school at which point she went full time. Almost all of her friends were similar, working in middle paying professional jobs- teachers, librarians, therapists, artists, academics etc. pretty much all of them were university educated (admittedly usually first generation) and none of them were stay at home mums or wives. That’s not to say there weren’t SAHM, but they were certainly not the norm.

OP has been given advice about solicitor...within that 30 minutes solicitor will tell her if she has a case... then she can choose what to do... go her own way or use solicitor at cost. Exactly the information we would give at WA and citizens advice. Don't insult my professionalism...OP has suffered DV DA if she needs support she can contact us.

OP he sounds like a horrible person. Unfortunately that doesn't really come into play for the financial settlement.
If you didn't work and he had the majority of this cash prior to the marriage and there's no children, you are not likely to get that much. I can't say whther 7k is the right amount as it involves understanding the full financial picture.
I'd say refuse the 7k and then find a solicitor. If you don't know one just Google and read reviews or ask around at work

Oh your other thread, you say you have two children, and had just broken up with a new boyfriend.

You’ll need to post accurate information if you want advice.

Are the child your ex-husband’s?

Did you get the house?
if not where did you and the children live after you separated and for how long and who was paying for this
What is your and the children current living situation

You need to report the beatings and rapes, not look for financial compensation

This is it, in a nutshell.

@AmyJahabee I'm sorry but there are some facts you need to explain, in your other thread you wrote in June last year compared to this one.

In that thread, you say you have two young children, you own your home , you are independent, but you want to know what the chance is of meeting a man who will take you and your two children on, because you have just split up with your partner.

Can you explain how that fits with your post today?

Who is the father of your children and who do you want to claim some money from?

You got together at 18 and were supported to study during that time and did not financially contribution so to be honest it doesn’t seem that unfair for you to walk away with very little. You have your qualification and are now working so surely you can now support yourself. Did being with him affect what you are earning now at all?

I wonder if this OP is joshing with us? I also get the impression she is not originally from the UK if indeed this thread is credible. Her way of talking doesn’t indicate that English is her first language.

I am also not sure why she is digging this up after 3 years. Surely this was sorted out during the divorce

OP was married 10 years ago if divorced for 3 years after 7 years of marriage (from the OP) but has two young children, from the other thread so whose are these DC, is the house OP lives in the marital house or one bought in the last three years

This is not a short marriage. OP says they were married for 7 years.

OP may be entitled to more or less than 50% of the assets. We don't have enough information to tell.

OP if what you posted about the abuse is true then I wouldn’t personally be worried about money. I would take this directly to the police to try and get them to press criminal charges. There must be evidence if it was happening over such a prolonged period of time- photos of injuries, text messages, witnesses (neighbours etc). I’d gather all the evidence I could find and report the case ASAP. If it is true I am so sorry you had to endure that.

Women like OP are why men don't want to get married.

She could walk away with a lot of money he has earned, purely for having got married & stuck it out 5+ years. Unless most of his worth was acquired pre getting married and isn't a matrimonial asset

Having read the other thread, it appears the OP is pulling the wool over our eyes

I did wonder if there would be a drip feed of dv.

Did you not do a fincial settlement in the divorce?

Tbh you brought nothing to the marriage and he paid for everything as stated. Not sure what financial settlement you are entitled to. You need to get legal advice

Ha. This does not tally with the other thread at all.

You need to clarify the date line -

as first you say you were married for 7 years, and divorced for 3

then you say this was 17 years ago

is that a typing error ?

Did his mother live in the house with you ? did you move into the family home ?

What nonsense is this ?

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I’m 47 and my parents generation saw women work, but perhaps less career based and more lower paid work. My mum returned to work when I was 2, and out of my circle of school friends I’m still in touch with all our mothers worked part time at least, many full time. We lived in a poor part of the north, we couldn’t live off one salary. The difference was that family members did the childcare, my Nanna lived next door and so minimum outgoings.

So you were 18 when you got together, have no children together, and divorced three years ago after being married for seven years. But in June last year you had a six-year-old and a seven-year-old?

Non of it adds up, does it. What’s the point? Anyone giving actual legal advice are wasting their time.

In the 1990's, in the UK, women would study, get an education and work until they get married. Then they would becomes wives and mothers

Gosh. I wonder why no one told my mother this when she got married in the early 70s and then continued her career

Or my boss, who started her career in the 90s. Or my husbands boss, who started hers in the 80s.

Or fucking margaret thatcher.