Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

@LeLeyenda

You are absolutely brilliant.
Makes a refreshing change to see positive help rather than negative.
I just can't understand the horrible negative adverse comments.

@NannyAnabela maybe in your restricted nanny area - where did you work?

Look for one that will take there fee afterwards. They can take a percentage

No, you don’t know the law. Hope unfortunately does not come into it

ALL settlements are based of legal definition of “fair settlement “ of future NEEDS. Past behaviour has not been taken into account for many decades

in very extreme circumstances the court may take into account- but it’s very clew4 and includes things like attempted murder for financial giants form spouse. That extreme. Abuse , especially where not reported doesn’t come into it.

yu also need to know thst since law change in 2022, all divorces are no blame, no reason is cited except for irreparable differences. So court won’t necessarily even know unreasonable behaviour happened.

This is the law. It is about “fair settlement “ for future needs. That’s it. “Fair settlement” is based on 10 or so criteria of future needs that may apply to the divorcing couple.

I work at womens aid OP...We would advise contacting solicitor, 30 mins pro bono..then ask if they can represent you and take fee from settlement.

this guy verbally and physically abuse me throughout the relationship. So you expect me to stay forever with torture?

I don't think anyone said that. You're now providing more context but haven't answered various questions PP have posed. This sounds very much like a cultural issue - was it an arranged marriage? Did you marry and live in the UK since? It all matters legally and culturally. Some people have relevant experience to advise you.

I think you’re talking about a very narrow and very privileged section of society (the kind that have au pairs and mothers helps). I was growing up in the 1990’s in an ex mining village in the north east. I can’t think of any of my friends mums (or mum’s friends) who didn’t work at least some of the time. Maybe a generation before you’d have correct … but both my grandmothers worked some of the time too.

I think you’re the one who needs to expand your view outside a very tiny bubble.

This ^

Off track I know…but

Why do you not advise your clients to first head to ADVICE NOW website. Save their half an hour for pertinent questions once they’ve got their own heads around process. If they head to free solicitor consult first they’ll get 30 minutes of solicitors telling them such basic stuff, vague, and then a sell.

please look at this site, and think about changing your advice to also or instead, look there first.

honestly, sending women to solicitors first sends them down a pathway of high bills. There’s so much of process you can do yourself ..even a reasonable 8 year old could. We need to empower women to take command of this, and use solicitors for the actual specific tasks they can’t do themselves.

You are amazing.
You have the audacity to call me a liar!

What I have said is the truth and I stand by every word that stated, because it is the real truth.

It is my generation - I am European (from a very developed society) - the first to study on a widespread way, have careers and have children.

Many people of my generation - and after - have chosen not to have children so that they don't lose the professional, social and financial status, amongs other reasons.

The generation of mothers who are now on the thirties to forties is the first one to have careers on a widespread way. Not saying that a few women from the upper classes didn't have careers, they did, but they were rare.

Having children before getting married?????
Which social class are you refering to?
Not in my country, not in the UK, in the social class that I belong to or move in.

@NannyAnabela Can I respectfully suggest you stop posting these comments. They are doing you no favours as they are completely, and utterly wrong. And they are just showing what you don't know.

I am older than you are.

I started work in 1974 after finishing university.

I even wore mini skirts in the 1960s.

I went jogging. I wore trousers. I had 'documents'.

I think perhaps your work was with a certain culture, where the men didn't allow their wives to be free and do what western-born women in the UK did.

It's meant you have a very false idea of life in those times.

we don't know her circunstamces maybe she was ill.

Yes, but that's YOUR experience, others' are very different. Society isn't one colour for everyone.

I went to university in 1988. I travelled the world afterwards. I've now been teaching 29 years. I've had 3 children, a divorce & another marriage along the way. My sisters are similar (and my brothers). My beloved mam (born 1940) worked before children & went back to work when I went to school, continuing to work until she was 68.

Working class background. Absolutely not unusual in any way in our area. My best friend's mother ran her own, v successful business; my good friend's mother was a lecturer; another a pharmacist, and on it goes.

I join this site as I though it is of british mothers, or mothers that are in the UK.
It doesn't seem to be entirely the case.

Are you being disrespectful to me? My "knowledge of british history"?
Are you serious? I live in the UK!

It seems to be you who don't know about - not even british history - but british society and culture.

You "graduated" but you don't even seem to be able to read my post!.

Poor women have always worked, that is called poverty. They worked in the fields, in the factories. We are not talking about that type of work.
We were talking about couples who have the financial, social and cultural status in which they can choose for the woman to be a homemaker and stay at home.

We are talking about women who could chose to go to a highschool, a college, a university and chose what they studied and which not only job but career they had.

Women started working in a more widespread way after WWII because they work was needed, the men were in the war and many returned wounded or didnt return at all.

The first choices that women started to have was to be a teacher, a nurse, an air stewardess, a secretary.
Then it followed with Lawyers, Economist - very rare, doctors.
It is only in the last 20 years that women can chose any job they want and that having a university degree is the normal.

Did you have a solicitor when you got divorced then ?

👏

This is the only advice you need OP

And to return to the 21st century, leaving NannyAnabela to go back to hanging around outside Buckingham Palace, hoping to see Queen Victoria…

OP, don’t you have two children with your husband?

@NannyAnabela This is a wind-up surely?

Did you work for middle Eastern or Asian families where women had to stay at home?

You are being very rude- and very silly- about women like me who started work in the early 1970s and were surrounded by other professional women.

I think you should butt out as you're in danger of making yourself a laughing stock. (And I think some of your posts have already been deleted for being so rude.)

so you had no children and were lucky enough not to have to work your whole marriage and you think you should be compensated?

This. Sounds like he was paying while you were studying?

The fact that he was abusive is a separate issue and I'd suggest you seek legal advice if you want to pursue that with police etc

Honestly. Give it a rest. Why are your experiences more 'correct ' than the rest of us. Those of us responding to you ARE from the UK, many born here & raised here as children, so actually know their own lives.

You havnt got a hope in hell of getting any more, and nor should you.

You've summed it up.