Ex husband worth a million and offered me only £7000 financial claim

[AmyJahabee]

Hi all,

I made a financial claim against my ex husband and he offered me £5000 and he is worth almost a million. Is this suppose to be a joke.

we were married for 7 years I was not working at the time so he pay for everything whilst I look after the house, no children involved in the marriage. Is that all I get because I didn’t contribute financially? It’s been 3years since the divorce, he has put in so much lies about me towards his statement. I’m going to decline the offer.

can I just decline or ask for a reasonable amount?

Did he have a million at the point of divorce though? Because as far as I'm aware if someone suddenly makes money or inherits or whatever- you can't go back again if you are divorced-? Although I'm
Prepared to be enlightened if that's not the case.

I graduated in 1996 at 26 and have worked ever since - raising three kids, being married and divorced - I'm 53 - I think you never met any of the women I know!

My mum is 77 - worked from 16, divorced as 24 - graduated and taught until retirement - the last woman in my family to be a traditional 'wife' was my grandmother who was born in the late 20's - my grandfathers mother worked though !

OP has a house with no mortgage so where did that come from, was that from the marriage as part of the settlement.

I think MNHQ might be taking a look.

This is utter shit.

My mother and aunt were born in the 1960s and both became doctors in the 1980s. It was not ‘very rare until the last 20 years’. I mean, even when you go to the hospital now, there’s a high chance your age 40+ consultant is female.

Women have been entering the professions in great numbers long before the last 20 years. What a ridiculous statement.

I was NOT attacking your professionalism .
just about everyone sends people to solicitors in first instance
im asking you to look at the ADVICE NOW site and think about adding it to your toolbox.
we can all learn, adapt, adjust approaches as new sources of information come on board. ADVICE Now Is a charity designed to avoid individuals having to run up re English and Welsh solcitors who are themselves frustrated by the lack of information to Joe Public to navigate the law easily.

we are none of us so big or so professional we can’t learn something new

Posters on Mumsnet needs to make up their minds whether marriage gives you protection or not

If you don’t get any protection after 7 years of abuse then marriage is just another hoop to jump through to get yourself away from the abuse.

If marriage does offer you protection then the starting point is 50/50

That is the starting point not the end point

People are missing the bit where op said she worked part time and studied and was cooking cleaner and carer for her elderly MIL

Whilst I don’t believe that op would get 50%
I do think that her work in the home given the abuse she sustained should give her at least 20-30%

Whilst people might call her lazy and ask why she deserves anything. The answer to that is he married her. At that point her share became measured in percentages

Friend 25 years married, who didn’t work (disabled) walked away with 60% of everything (children were all adults by that stage)

Remember marriage is a legal contract.

£7000 is just his idea of throwing her scraps hoping she will go away

A judge will decide what she will get

She needs a good divorce lawyer PDQ

Perhaps £7000 is a good offer.
You say yo didnt work for the 7 years.
Why not?
I guess he worked every day?

You sound charming. Newsflash, housekeeping is work too, even if unpaid, and can be a lot of work depending on expectations.

You need to look at it as splitting assets rather than compensation

what was your contribution to the martial assets

Agreed . would you feel the same if you had worked and someone feeling entitled to a life style whilst sitting on there arse absolutely not .., get yourself a job , you not a child , you have no congratulations to someone’s hard work whilst doing nothing … get a job

Calling BS myself

The first post and the thread title state 2 different amounts for a start

Theres many reasons spouses cant work...also...did OP do all housework, shopping, mental load etc.
7 years of that....then charge him that!

Then he could charge her for 7 years bed and board as well as financial support while studying! Interesting that the second long post contained so much more information omitted from the original.

She deserves 0 . She needs to get a job , what a parasite

She is already divorced apparently it's her ex husband

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@AmyJahabee so you have not contributed to the household? no kids! and he paid to help your futher your education? did you just marry him for his money OP?? come on, be honest!

also...did OP do all housework, shopping, mental load etc

If there's no children, unless you're living in some sort of stately home, there really isn't that much to do in terms of housework. As for mental load...purlease.

Mental load without kids? My entire mental load comes from both my kids. My mind would be basically free if I didn't have children 😂

Bullshit.

Are you in England OP?

“In the 1990's, in the UK, women would study, get an education and work until they get married.”

Honestly there is some utter bollocks being written on this thread

Dud you sign a decree absolut 3 yrs ago? If so i think you might be too late unless you have kids.
Also not sure many solicitors actually give free 30 minutes, seems very unlikely. They might ask you to set it out in 3 mins but they don't actually work for free unless it's no win no fee or legal aid.

@NannyAnabela , I don't need to read newspapers etc to know what life for women was like in the UK in the 1990s, thank you all the same. I was part of that cohort of women born in the 1950s and 60s, and my memory (and knowledge of my friends' lives) very clearly tells me that we were off to university after leaving school in the 1970s and working in professional roles (without needing permission from any man in our lives) by the 1980s. Then we all kept working after we had children too.

You must have been living in a parallel universe - an EXTREMELY small parallel universe.

@NannyAnabela grandmother born in 1921, qualified nurse and worked her entire life (apart from a small break to have children). Her husband died when my mum and her sister were children. My mum, worked for a large bank, again had a break to have us, then went back to work full time when I was half way through primary but worked part time until then. I’m 44..