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Original poster

Cancelling date because of the weather?

105 replies

Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:18

I haven't seen the guy I've been dating in 4 weeks due to Christmas holidays and visiting families etc

He's just said maybe we should reschedule our Saturday dinner date due to upcoming heavy rain scheduled. As in for the following week.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous? Or I am being thoughtless?

He then said 'if you insist I'll still book the table though'. I haven't insisted anything. I just really want to see him and it's been ages!

Crap weather is crap but we're going to a restaurant.

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Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:20

Actually the forecast says light rain, which is worse 😂

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CatamaranViper · 16/01/2024 13:20

Well it doesn't sound like he's very excited to see you.

I hate going out in the rain and would want to stay home if I wasn't doing anything exciting, but seeing your date should be exciting. I would have gone out in a twister and risked being whipped off to Oz to see DH when we first started dating

Crunchymum · 16/01/2024 13:22

Agree he doesn't seem at all enthused to see you.

Bad weather would have been an excuse for me to invite DP round for a shag when we first met 😁

ManateeFair · 16/01/2024 13:22

I could absolutely not have a relationship with someone who frets about a) some rain and b) some rain that has been forecast a week in advance. It’s so wimpish and feeble and over-cautious.

Singleandproud · 16/01/2024 13:22

Depends on whether he works in a job where he needs to respond to flood incidents and could be pulled away from your date or on where he lives and needs to travel through, many roads in my area have been impassable due to flooding since Storm Babet and any further rain just makes the issue worse adding significant time to journeys.

Its advisable not to travel in very heavy rain although most ignore that. Or perhaps he's just not that fussed or got another date planned and didn't realize he'd double booked himself.

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Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:23

This is what worries me @CatamaranViper - yesterday he was full of excitement and date ideas.

Suddenly it's 'but the weather'. What the hell.

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TheCurlyKnobhead · 16/01/2024 13:23

Sounds like he's checked out OP

CatamaranViper · 16/01/2024 13:24

Unless, is he driving? Maybe he isn't confident driving in rain and doesn't want to admit it?

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 16/01/2024 13:24

Honestly I wouldn't reply. Let him go.

SinnerBoy · 16/01/2024 13:24

Is he fearful of dissolving?

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Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:24

Doesn't make sense @TheCurlyKnobhead

We just had a call last night and he had about 4 different dates ideas. Been chatting every day too

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TeachesOfPeaches · 16/01/2024 13:26

What's his concern specifically? Driving, train delays, wet trousers, hasn't got an umbrella?

YouAndMeAndThem · 16/01/2024 13:26

Fair enough if it's a picnic in a park but to a restaurant?! Weird. I would invite him to your place instead if you're at that stage.

Mitsky · 16/01/2024 13:26

Is he made of candy floss?

that’s a ridiculous reason to cancel.

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Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:26

Not sure @TeachesOfPeaches - he is travelling from further away on the train. So that might be on his mind. But he didn't actually say this.

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CrushingOnRubies · 16/01/2024 13:27

Yeah throw this guy back into the sea

It's a restaurant in February so presumably it's a fairly water tight venue. It's not like it's an open air place on a boat which is more weather dependent. And even then you go that's ok will just go somewhere more covered on dry land

Ktime · 16/01/2024 13:27

I’d just ask him if he’s using the light rain forecast as an excuse not to see you.

If he does melt in the rain then that’s hardly attractive.

AuntieStella · 16/01/2024 13:27

If you're in a weather warning zone, fair enough. Or if there's a flood warning where he lives. Or if he works for the Environment Agency or some other body that deals with flooding.

If any of these applied, I think he'd have mentioned it.

As he didn't, then I think you're in to "any old excuse will do" territory

Doyouwantmejusttogo · 16/01/2024 13:27

I turned up for my first date with DH wearing wellies as the weather was so bad!

kintra · 16/01/2024 13:28

YouAndMeAndThem · 16/01/2024 13:26

Fair enough if it's a picnic in a park but to a restaurant?! Weird. I would invite him to your place instead if you're at that stage.

Or is this what he's angling for OP?

rosesinmygarden · 16/01/2024 13:28

I think I'd either just not reply or say, "no worries" and leave it. Let him do the running and make the next move.

In the nicest way possible, he just doesn't sound that bothered about seeing you. You're worth the effort and he's not willing.

Clearly not worth any more of your time OP - plenty more fish in the sea...

beetr00 · 16/01/2024 13:28

@Celia24 you've had to post on MN lovely, he is NOT your one 💐

SweetBirdsong · 16/01/2024 13:29

I wouldn't want to be dating a man who was too chicken shit to drive in the snow anyway. Bin him @Celia24 he sounds lame.

ShirleyPhallus · 16/01/2024 13:29

I think if he hasn’t seen you for 4 weeks then is being this feeble he’s checked out

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Celia24 · 16/01/2024 13:30

@ShirleyPhallus he's been abroad visiting family over holidays.

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