Cancelling date because of the weather?

[Celia24]

I haven't seen the guy I've been dating in 4 weeks due to Christmas holidays and visiting families etc

He's just said maybe we should reschedule our Saturday dinner date due to upcoming heavy rain scheduled. As in for the following week.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous? Or I am being thoughtless?

He then said 'if you insist I'll still book the table though'. I haven't insisted anything. I just really want to see him and it's been ages!

Crap weather is crap but we're going to a restaurant.

Then i’d wager a bet he is putting you on the back burner whilst he dates other women. If that doesn’t work out he will suddenly become a lot more free.

However, given that it is mid January it is possible that he is broke and doesn’t want to say- therefore he wants to postpone the date so not to lose face and so he can pay his half/for both of you. But it is very difficult to know without potentially degrading yourself in his eyes by accepting what is potentially quite shitty behaviour.

So you've only known him for 2 months and he's cancelled your first date in 4 weeks for daft reasons... throw this one back!

I don't want to rearrange again. Simple as that.

I pretty much know as soon as I nicely suggest it's this week or nothing, he'll book the table

But it's annoying. It should be 100% mutual enthusiasm both ways.

He's being ridiculous! I've just looked at the forecast. What does he think is going to happen to him in the rain?

I'd throw him back op.

Oh wow. Unfortunately maybe he's just not that into you and you need to break things off before it messes with your self esteem.

I wouldn't be able to help myself but say something like "I've never had a man cancel on me because of light rain before" and then say this won't work since you live in Glasgow. Then block.

I'm an immigrant to the UK and I HATE the rain, I certainly was not used to it. But if I a man cancelled a date because of it I would be fuming.

You’ve been dating for 2 months and haven’t seen each other for 1 month….?!

Perhaps he is secretly a wicked witch...

He is from abroad. He had a trip booked to visit family before we started dating.

I'll give him once chance to sort this out. Or I'm done and I won't be rescheduling.

He's the first guy id really liked in years.

Please read 'He's Just Not That Into You', I found it very eye opening even if the bottom line is that those that like you put in effort. Key here is where he says if you insist on going on the date, OP.

Sack him off.

What is he gonna do, melt?

I mean seriously, what is wrong with these men?!

I'm going to pick him up on that insisting thing when I reply @WobblyCat - not letting it slide

He clearly doesn’t want to see you….. sounds like game over to me.

That's the type of thing I'd say if I wasn't particularly bothered about seeing them 😬

But @Green321 why did he call me yesterday with loads of date ideas? And say I'm looking forward to seeing you?

I've been slow faded by guys and they avoided me and didn't organize anything

If you have to ask these questions or it’s complex this early, he’s not keen enough. He’d not leave you in any doubt if interested. It’s that simple.

I’m guessing he suddenly got an invite from friends, or worse a response from someone else on OLD.

See what he says about Thursday. And what transpires.

Is he French? I find French men particularly wimpy about rain! Also the "if you insist" thing sounds quite French too! But I agree it sounds like a dodgy slow fade 🤔

I've been had it from an Irish man who couldn't believe u went hiking in light rain!

@jamaisjedors

I think he's either got cold feet once the date was set in place, or he's dating other people and has double booked the Saturday/got another offer.

Maybe he has an unsightly coldsore? None of his date clothes are clean? Psychotic break? Secretly married? It could be anything!

I would just reply with 'Huh? Don't be daft -a bit of rain doesn't matter, we aren't made of sugar." Or something similar to ask why he is being weird.

I don't think it is that he has suddenly gone off you

No it's not

She's in Scotland. Gets way more rain there

OP, in Spanish* the word insist (insistir) does have a similar meaning to English but it can also sometimes mean something like carry on or go ahead. Eg. ‘If you still want to go ahead with the date despite the rain’ I don’t think it is quite as forceful as in English. I would be annoyed if a native speaker used the word as it would imply I was petulant, but he may not mean it that way.

Regardless of linguistics, he is obviously easily put off and you deserve enthusiasm.

• and I would guess other Latin languages like Romanian, Portuguese, Italian etc.

I’d perhaps ask him why he’s worried about the rain? Give him a chance to explain/rearrange once in case it was a language issue (although I don’t think it is!). But I might add that he might not be a good fit for dating someone in the North if weather is going to be a problem.

Has he done anything previously that would make you question him? If yes throw him back

If no, give him another chance - could you do lunch or somthing instead in case it is a worry for him getting home if he's on the train?

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