Cancelling date because of the weather?

[Celia24]

I haven't seen the guy I've been dating in 4 weeks due to Christmas holidays and visiting families etc

He's just said maybe we should reschedule our Saturday dinner date due to upcoming heavy rain scheduled. As in for the following week.

AIBU to think this is ridiculous? Or I am being thoughtless?

He then said 'if you insist I'll still book the table though'. I haven't insisted anything. I just really want to see him and it's been ages!

Crap weather is crap but we're going to a restaurant.

It’s really not worth giving headspace to. I once went on a first date with a guy and it seemed to go really well and we kissed loads. On the date and afterwards he was really keen to arrange a 2nd date. He text me multiple times a day for two months. He kept initiating and organising dates and then cancelling them last minute (for a variety of reasons, including his mum being seriously ill in hospital). He seemed like such a nice, respectable and kind professional guy who had relentlessly chased me that I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Then when his ‘cat died’ I realised I had only seen him once in eight weeks. I told him not to bother any more. He seemed gutted but I had finally wised up. Six months later he text me saying he was sorry and he’d had a lot going on but would love to take for an expensive meal to make up for it. At which point I could honestly turn round and say thanks but no thanks, I’ve met someone and we’re living together. Four years later we are married with a beautiful baby girl. Don’t be me at 33, I was an absolute mug who almost blew my chance at having a family. I don’t know how old you are. I don’t know if you have children or want them. But if you do you don’t have forever to waste on a man who is scared of rain commitment.

No @mumtotwo11 he's been fairly consistent until now

Ps. Sick mum/dead cat guy was also the first man I’d liked in years. But I can truthfully say that my husband is better in every single way, and that-most importantly- he never made me doubt how much he wanted me and our relationship from the very first time we met.

He doesn't sound that interested, or is the type not bothered too much with a relationship. If he really wanted this relationship, he'd be making plans with a view to reviewing things just before you meet if there's a problem.

It’s the ‘if you insist’ bit that would get me. I’ve just started seeing someone and the only context I can imagine saying that to her is in a playful way If it’s something we both really wanted to do.

anyway it sounds like he might be the really overcautious type, which is fine if you can deal with that but would drive me spare. Or he’s just not that into you.

If he or anyone leaves you in doubt, move on, as above. If keen you’d know, he’s not worth your time.

Can't you just ask him why the rain makes a difference?

A dodgy toupée?

But the date isn't until Saturday and the OP says the current forecast for where she is just shows 'light rain' for that day.

In his message @ManateeFair he said it's going to be torrential. No idea where he's got that from

I'll just ask why it's bothering him now

Is he worried about dissolving?

The bit about insisting would put me right off.

I agree with saying “no worries” and nothing else at all, or just not replying.

Four weeks and he thinks a bit of rain might put him off …

would it put you off someone you really liked?

don’t let him waste your time

I would just reply "No, 'course not. Raincheck!" to his suggestion that he'll still book a table if you insist. I completely get why you don't want to insist. Then I'd wait for him to set something up. You only want to see him if it's reciprocated. If he's genuinely keen.

Of course, you might find that you don't want to reschedule, that you've gone off him in the meantime. There was another thread recently where a guy postponed a date and the OP found she wasn't really bothered about making a new one.

Sometimes when someone pulls back it makes you realise that, meh, you don't really care that much. You would have been happy to go on the date as scheduled but when something interrupts the plan you find yourself thinking that you don't actually mind and you find that your feelings arent the same and you re-evaluate.

Have my answer 😂

He replied 2 minutes later (fastest ever), saying no I don't mean it that way, excuse my wording! And he has now booked the table.

Said he'd misread the forecast, blabbering something about forecasts in his home country.

And has reiterated that he's really looking forward. Damn I scared him there. Hope I'm not as scary as the rain....

Well I hope he proves most of us wrong! Enjoy the date and watch out for how he acts during and especially after. Also after two months I’d be looking to see him a bit more regularly. Keep us updated- I hope it goes well :)

Maybe texting is not the best form of communication when one of you doesn’t have English as your first language!

I know @PinkEasterbunny - his English is very good but not perfect. He was very apologetic.

He has a nice voice so more excuses to talk on the phone maybe 🙂

Yes, this! I wouldn't hold 'insist' against him. Glad he's replied so quickly and I hope the date goes well.

🤣🤣🤣

Then he should not have a driving licence.

Have a lovely evening.

Yes, similar in Turkish. I think the word for insist has quite positive connotations.

Sounds like he's seeing someone else.

Forecast has changed to heavy rain 😂

Maybe he's a secret weatherman. Thanks for the good date wishes hopefully it goes ahead!

If a bit of rain genuinely has him this concerned, it doesn't bode too well. He sounds wetter than an otter's pocket