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To think the terms "neuro diverse" and "neuro typical" will be short lived.

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theplatformedge · 16/01/2024 08:30

Diversity means "a range of many people or things that are very different from each other" (Oxford learner's dictionary), so the idea that a minority of people are "neuro diverse" and everyone else is "neuro typical" is not only semantically illogical, but also potentially offensive.

We're all different. Some people have traits that make life more difficult for them than others, whether it be ASD, ADHD or a range of other conditions, with spectrums of severity. Telling people that you're neuro-diverse is so vague as to be meaningless, and telling other people they are nero-typical when you have no idea what they're feeling inside is insensitive. Some people get a formal diagnosis for their symptoms, some people self-diagnose and others don't recognise it in themselves. Nobody knows how many people are living with these traits across the population, but the massive increase in diagnostics suggests they're a lot more common than anyone ever thought in the past, and therefore gradually becoming very "typical".

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SwordToFlamethrower · 18/01/2024 00:06

Blomh · 18/01/2024 00:03

If anyone tried to police the language I use to describe myself they would get told in no uncertain terms to fuck off.

I got regularly told not use "Aspergers" to describe myself, because it's offensive!

Mybootsare · 18/01/2024 00:24

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 16/01/2024 09:33

What I feel quite strongly these days is the push, from people who are perhaps neurotypical, for those who are neurodivergent not to be accommodated, or measures taken to help out them into a similar position to everyone else.

A crowd who actively don’t want any help or understanding to be given in case they “miss out” on something. Who have been used to having the advantage over neurodivergent people all their lives, and therefore want to hold on to that at all costs.

It’s neurodivergent not neurodiverse when applied to a specific person.

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Haven’t read the entire thread but yes to all of this.

And someone posted We also know that trauma and stress can hugely impact how the brain works and these things can be hugely intertwined with ASD and ADHD

but the thing is - irrespective of whether it’s trauma symptoms or ASD or both, what’s the issue with these people receiving reasonable adjustments irrespective of the root source?

Mybootsare · 18/01/2024 00:36

YuleDragon · 16/01/2024 10:02

because dyspraxia or developmental co-ordination disorder does actually also have impacts on social/emotional development. It usually quantifies about a 25% delay in development of the brain in these areas, as well as physically impacting on coordination and muscle tone.

Exactly. Haven’t read the whole thread so I don’t know if anyone else has posted this but straight from the dyspraxia foundation website : Many people with dyspraxia/DCD have difficulty organising themselves, their equipment and their thoughts. Some also experience problems with attention, memory and time management. Many adults with dyspraxia/DCD say these difficulties present more of a challenge in their daily lives than their underlying movement difficulties.

And the movement difficulty ie. Problems with fine and gross motor coordination is obviously linked to the way their mind processes things.

Mybootsare · 18/01/2024 00:39

YuleDragon · 16/01/2024 10:13

i suggest you visit here - Home (dyspraxiafoundation.org.uk) and do some research on the condition.

also this page - Dyspraxia at a glance – Dyspraxia Foundation

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You beat me to it. I was going to post the dyspraxia link.

This poster is so uninformed about dyspraxia, which is fair enough but why do people boldly make such claims with no research.

Daftasabroom · 18/01/2024 09:02

anarchicparadise · 17/01/2024 22:24

How does a spectrum work if not to identify something that can be at any point between two opposite/extreme ends of a scale?

A scale is a linear series of values, a spectrum is a number of scales for a number of variables. ASD is often represented as three impairments. The example given by @theplatformedge has ten, and the DIVA test for ADHD has 25 (IIRC).

A radar diagram is a good way of showing it but it could be a bar chart or a stock chart depending on the audience.

Bergamotte · 18/01/2024 09:43

anarchicparadise · 17/01/2024 22:24

How does a spectrum work if not to identify something that can be at any point between two opposite/extreme ends of a scale?

For an explanation, try reading (at least) as far as the first two illustrations in this article:

https://neuroclastic.com/its-a-spectrum-doesnt-mean-what-you-think/

"Red is not “more blue” than blue is. Red is not “more spectrum” than blue is. [...]
But when people talk about autism they talk as if it were a gradient, not a spectrum at all."

Or think of the graphs from spectroscopy, where there will be peaks at various points on a spectrum.

To think the terms "neuro diverse" and "neuro typical" will be short lived.
Foxesandsquirrels · 18/01/2024 09:53

DyslexicPoster · 16/01/2024 08:58

Do you know what? I have a non verbal type of ASD child and a close to diagnosis cut off child.

I do not want to discus it as what ever you say it gets micro disected and you offend someone. You can not compare my kids presentations of ASD.

What I personally want to do is never ever get drawn into conversations on ASD. I was telling my Bi son that he shouldn't feel safe talking about LBQT because he is the wrong flavour of Bi and will offend someone.

This. I have a lot of opinions on this but will keep it outside of Mumsnet.

ronoi · 18/01/2024 10:00

@DyslexicPoster

Do you know what? I have a non verbal type of ASD child and a close to diagnosis cut off child.

Me too. But, crucially, it's the same child.

This is why I can't get on board with mild/moderate/severe labels.

The mild label my child would have been given no longer applies.

I appreciate that wasn't your discussion but I quoted your sentence as it goes nicely with my example.

I ask over and over when people talk about labels and how the diagnosis should be clearly different but for me the child who would have been diagnosed with Asperger's back in the day is now a clear case of classic autism.

ronoi · 18/01/2024 10:01

Blomh · 18/01/2024 00:03

If anyone tried to police the language I use to describe myself they would get told in no uncertain terms to fuck off.

I was in a few groups on Facebook when I was first diagnosed a few years back, I ran out of every one for this reason.

theplatformedge · 18/01/2024 10:37

ronoi · 18/01/2024 10:01

I was in a few groups on Facebook when I was first diagnosed a few years back, I ran out of every one for this reason.

I do consider Mumsnet to be a much safer space than Facebook. Although the anonymity encourages people to say exactly what's on their mind, the moderation is usually swift and fair, and it's relatively easy to walk away from conversations that become toxic.

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Daftasabroom · 18/01/2024 10:53

@anarchicparadise @Bergamotte @theplatformedge

Change wavelength to neurological or psychological variables or parameters.
Change Relative Energy to intensity or impact

In which case the different curves could represent or identify different neurological conditions including NT, ADHD, ASD, dyslexia etc etc.

To think the terms "neuro diverse" and "neuro typical" will be short lived.
Orangesandsatsumas · 18/01/2024 13:54

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 17/01/2024 23:50

I was once part of a volunteering group for women's services postnatally and I referred to myself as autistic and one of the other peers stopped me and told me it's person with autism, not autistic person because in their training they learnt to put the person before the illness.

I was absolutely stunned, because autism is not an illness so I don't need to be put before anything, and being autistic is part of my genetic and social makeup, so it's important to be recognised as such.

I'm sure that it will vary from person to person though, and I wouldn't get flustered if someone referred to me as a person with autism, rather than an autistic person.

I will always be stunned though when someone stops me to tell me how to refer to myself.

It's ridiculous! I hate people policing what terminology people use to refer to themselves.

And actually, I'm probably autistic and tie myself up in knots, convinced I'm going to offend someone or put my foot in it (it happens often) so your encounter would have had me in a complete spin and I probably would have cried for days about it and asked my husband on repeat why I can't get it right!

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