Would you have a baby at 50?

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Off the back of the "Do you regret having a baby at 40" thread, would you have a child at 50 assuming you can provide for it emotionally and financially? Obviously medical assistance would be needed.

I had children in my mid and late thirties. I was definitely more tired with the second one but I would never regret having him. If I didn't get the chance to have children till 50 I might have had one at that age if I had lots of support and could manage financially. The average life span for a woman in the UK is nearly 81 so I would anticipate being around for the next 30 years or so.

Hell no. Had mine at 36 and 39 and was exhausted with the sleepless nights with the second. And I'm fit and healthy. My sleep has never recovered to be honest.

Not 50 no, 40 was my cut off

Hell no! I had my second and last child at 26. If I am lucky I might have some grandchildren in my 50's and I hope to be a loving, involved grandmother.
I don't believe it is fair to a child to be born to parents of that age.
A previous poster did mention that a mother would receive judgement and a father would get a pat on the back, whilst I agree this isn't right, most 50 year old fathers are with much younger women. It is very unusual even with medical intervention for two parents to be anywhere near 50.

Not personally, but I know two people who had surprise babies at 46 and 47 and another who adopted at a similar age. All going well for them. I do think 50 is the cutoff and it’s not ideal but it can work fine.

If money was no issue and I had a nanny then maybe but working full time with an older husband absolutely not.

It probably isn’t in most places but I work in London and can think of 3 or 4 couples where he was 50/early 50s and she was mid 40s, so not far off.

No way. Currently pregnant with my first at 37/38. My cut off was 35, we gave up at this point after years of trying but somehow naturally fell pregnant last year. I was fit and healthy but I now feel like a wreck. I don't think my body could cope going through pregnancy again let alone in over 10 years time.

Not personally. I’ve had four children and I’ve been a parent since I was 22yo. I wouldn’t want to start again and a new baby would miss things the others had such as grandparents who could play with them, close age siblings etc.

Absolutely not

Lost my gorgeous 16 year old son when I was late 40's ( car accident)
The yearning for another child was all consuming for quite a few years
Happily I didn't give in to the madness. I'm now in my early 60's and really, really wouldn't want to be going through GCSE's and teen angsts right now

No. I just wouldn’t have the energy. It was bad enough at 38.

The answer to that is yes, lots do even people in their 60's.

I'd rather have my lady garden sewn shut!

I am 53 and childless not through choice. My answer is no, because I can’t imagine a 10 year old with a 60 year old mother or a 20 year old with a 70 year old parent etc. Always being mistaken for grandchild and grandparent etc. I naturally reconciled with the idea of not having children in my 40s and I think this is the reason.

So sorry you lost your ds.

I am 50 and I wouldn't choose it but, if I found myself unexpectedly pregnant, I would be having a baby at 50. I think it would take a bit of accepting and coming to terms with though. I really hope it doesn't happen.

No. My kids are nearing adulthood, I couldn’t imagine having a baby again.

I would not physically carry a baby at fifty if one showed up on my doorstep im fairly confident I could look after it considering I'm 48 still getting sleepless nights with my teen 🙄

I couldn't.
It wouldn't be fair on the baby, nor my two existing children who would be in their early 30s by that point.

No I wouldn’t.

But as a pp suggests, my post comes from a privileged position of someone who wanted children and has them. I wouldn’t judge anyone else for saying yes.

No.

I had my only dc at 45. I was fit & healthy, had a problem free pregnancy, a natural delivery, and DC is now 16.

We've had a great time. I've loved every minute and ds is a happy, healthy, confident boy. We get on well and our lives are reasonably stress free. Two years until he heads off to university or whatever.

But...
I made a conscious decision to stay fit to ensure I could always keep up. At 60 I still Parkrun and am training for my first half marathon. I still cycle and ski with dc. It takes thought and effort.

I was made redundant during covid, probably chosen because of my age, and had to work extremely hard to get another exec level job.

I've been lucky, I wouldn't want to push it.

I wouldn’t. I’ve just had my second at 29 and I feel wiped out. The pregnancy was harder and that’s likely because I already have boisterous 4 year old but I just couldn’t imagine the toll it would take.

My hair is now fully grey after having my second child! Also, I am so aware of my own mortality now I am a mother. It never entered my universe before but time now feels so precious and fragile.

I want to be here if/when my children have kids of their own so that I can be there for them and pass on my compassion and hold them emotionally through the process. I hope I am lucky enough to be here to do that should they ever need it. Having said that, if they never have children I would love to travel with them as they get older (if they’ll have me)!

I agree that 50 does sadly mean the odds of being around and present in their lives as adults are significantly lowered and it wouldn’t fair. I understand that it’s easy for me to say as someone who conceived easily with no problems but I just don’t believe it’s fair on anyone to conceive at 50.

Er, no.

Hell Fuck no !!!!

Maybe a Grandchild