Would you have a baby at 50?

[pumpkinpatch6]

Off the back of the "Do you regret having a baby at 40" thread, would you have a child at 50 assuming you can provide for it emotionally and financially? Obviously medical assistance would be needed.

No. A struggle for the parent and unfair on the child . Children can be cruel enough to each other , let alone if they perceive another child as having a very elderly parent .

No. I had my two in my early 30s and my body made a meal out of pregnancy and birth to the extent that it was the greatest factor that put me off a third child. As it happens that was probably to the best as DS1 has some "mild" additional needs.

As DH and I get older, the risk of further needs increases and while DS is fairly managable, a child with considerably greater needs would have a huge toll on all members of the family.

My dad died in his early 50s and while DH and I are less likely to incur such lifestyle related disease so young, life and death can not be neatly mapped out.

I'm done in my early 40s. I have no desire to mix babies/ toddlers with teenagers.
If I had not had children by this point, that would be very different and my physical and emotional resources would not be used up in the same way. But another 5-10 years on is biologically a different league and women's reproductive systems wind down because of the toll of repoduction on women's bodies.

*WithACatLikeTread · Today 07:11

Roll my eyes at the feel ancient at 32 comment. 🙄*

For a huge, huge chunk of human existence, life expectancy was much lower than today and few people made it to 40!!

No I would rather adopt or foster. Presuming the age is due to trying to have a child unsuccessfully when younger. There is many children out there needing loving homes. I’m a whole lot more tired now in my forties. I couldn’t go back to sleepless nights.

I had my last baby at 32 there is no way I’d have another let alone at 50! I like my life thanks!

Yes I’d love to. I’m 46 so too old but if a miracle happened I would be extremely happy. I don’t feel any older than when I had DC in my 20s 🤷‍♀️

No way. I hope to spend my fifties being selfish....not dragging my arse to soft play centres and making packed lunches

That allegedly happened to my Gran. Had my uncle at 42 and then never had another period. Or so the family legend has it!

For me no.my kids are 17 and nearly 14 and my nearly 14 year old has complex disabilities I'm 50

I think.it would be quite rare to.have a naturally conceived healthy pregnancy at 50.

No. I think anything over 35 is introducing too many risk factors as it is.

Absolutely not.

But a male relative of mine became a father for the first time at 53 and is now 60 with a 7yo but no one bats an eyelid. If a woman was in this position people would likely start on about it’s not fair on the child to have such old parents, you’ll be old and decrepit or dead by the time they reach adulthood.

Sorry - my message above was a reply to this post! Normally just a lurker!

Had DC at 33 and 38, no way would I want a baby at 50.

Don’t be ridiculous

Depends on how I felt as I’m not 50 for a while yet. I’ve turned 40 and feel so much fitter, patient, and nurturing than I ever did in my 30s. Really surprised at those who feel like they’re half dead at 40!

No way. If I hadn’t had children I would have had one at 45 / 46 though. To be honest I’m no more tired than I was in my 20’s so it’s not from that aspect it’s just, well, too old

Depends when you’re talking about but people have been living long lives for millennia. The mean average life expectancy figures you see are warped by high infant mortality, but if you made it to adulthood it wasn’t unusual to live to 70+.

I’m in my 40s and if my DC weren’t teens I would be struggling due to peri menopause and how all consuming children are. I’m finding myself again in my 40s and wouldn’t give that up for anything. I think friends who have had children in their 40s are quite mad but each to their own.

Yes

Try having multiple chronic illnesses and two children with additional needs then get back to me🤣

That,s just biology men can become fathers up until their / 70,s /80,s
St 50 most women are menopausal or at least Peri menopausal.

Personally, 100% no I would not want to have a baby at 50.

But a male relative of mine became a father for the first time at 53 and is now 60 with a 7yo but no one bats an eyelid. If a woman was in this position people would likely start on about it’s not fair on the child to have such old parents, you’ll be old and decrepit or dead by the time they reach adulthood.

I bet a lot of people think he’s selfish amongst other things, they just don’t say it aloud because generally people keep such thoughts to themselves in real life. I’d have the same opinion of a man or woman having a child at that age, I think it’s selfish.

I just couldn't. I know I'm lucky because I've got my DS but I think having a baby at 50 does the baby and you a disservice.

I was in my late 20s having my DS and we had so much fun. I used to do cartwheels to make him laugh and walk or run for miles. Now if I get on the floor I can't get back up.

I feel worn out. I just couldn't do it again. I'm looking forward to DGC!

No. My parents were late 30’s and late 40’s when i was born. Both were dead before i was 24, so I personally didn’t want to be an older than 30 mum. I know thats unlucky, but there is a good reason your 50’s is known as snipers alley health wise. Not fair on a child. I also disapprove of older dads just because you can have a child doesn’t mean you should.