Would you have a baby at 50?

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Off the back of the "Do you regret having a baby at 40" thread, would you have a child at 50 assuming you can provide for it emotionally and financially? Obviously medical assistance would be needed.

If you have the energy and resources, why not? The choice is yours. Who gives a flying f* what other people think? Live your life.

Hell no!!!
I had dc 2 at 40......that was old enough.

As in, you can be 30 and still have a smart, tall, high achieving child and have good health and plenty of years left.

It is simply life that those at the far ends of parental age are more likely to have certain advantages and disadvantages.

A 50 year old is more at risk of heath issues but more likely to have money. A 16 year old has more energy but they won't be financially stable. I'll never understand why people pretend like there are no disadvantages to being an older parent, there are, as with any age.

DC2 is due a couple of weeks after my 47th birthday. It wasn’t planned this way - we actually started trying again when DC1 was 9 months old - DC1 is now in year two..Anyway we gave up trying a couple of years ago and I thought I’d hit menopause, but that wasn’t the case. Reading some of these replies though, if I wasn’t a confident person would make me think we were doing something really cruel and selfish, and that I would be crumbling into haggard old age in a few short years.

FWIW DH’s mum had him in her mid 20s but died when he was 6, so no matter how old you are when you have a child there are never any guarantees you’ll be around to see them grow up anyway. So personally I don’t think that should be too much of a consideration if the potential parents are in an otherwise good position to start/expand their family.

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I would not mind being George Clooney’s child.

How unfortunate for that poor child to be born into such a desperate situation of fortune and privilege…

Absolutely ridiculous.

A million percent no! I have a five year old and am 37 this year and knackered enough as it is! I can’t imagine doing it at 50 plus feel it wouldn’t be fair on the child plus many more risks.

I would not mind being George Clooney’s child

I would not mind being George Clooney’s baby’s mumma.

Interestingly, I don't think I've seen religion mentioned on this thread. Some of the older mums getting pregnant naturally will be religious; especially if they're members of a religion that isn't a fan of contraception 🙂

Me neither, but losing a parent prematurely (for example) feels the same whether you're 50yo Sam and Pete from the midlands or George Clooney. Money doesn't protect from everything which is the point.

NewYearNameChanger That's wonderful, all the best! If you take one thing away from this thread, maybe choose mumtobabyhavoc's succinct advice above! 😁

Absolutely fucking not!

My grandchildren will be 13, 8 and 8
7 when I'm 50.

Good god no!

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But I’ll bet that the life expectancy of George Clooney with his private chef and top quality healthcare is higher than Sam and Pete living in poverty in the Midlands for example…

Its all relative.

Yeah because money makes up for everything, I suppose you could say it can buy them plenty of therapy when they lose their dad before they're 20...

If money solved everything, why can't people be happy just being rich and childless? Oh no we could never suggest that though, that would be horrific suggesting money makes up for not having kids, it's ok if it's a parent tho. It's amazing on a literal parenting site people think mothers and fathers are so expendable.

@Firefly1987 do you think that someone who’s father dies when they’re 20 can’t have a happy and fulfilling life?

I’m not saying having your parents in your life isn’t important.

Obviously there are various factors that contribute to someone having a ‘happy life’ including parents, extended family, friends, surroundings, money, climate…

I just don’t think George Clooney’s kids will be unhappier (even if they lose him 10 years prematurely) than some others for many other reasons 🤷🏽‍♀️

What an assumption.

@Hmmmmaybe anyone probably can but I can tell you it affected me hugely losing my dad in my early 20s. You just have to suck it up though, no other choice. Can't magic up another parent. Do you think people who don't have children (or the number of children they wanted, especially by 50) can't live happy and fulfilling lives?

Pointless judgey thread.

So if you had fertility problems why say 30 is grim to have kids? I started TTC at 25 and didn't have my first until 30. Luckily we started trying when we did.

Someone who's mauled by a dog can go onto live a happy life but they still would rather that not happen to them😂

Same applies to losing a parent at 20

Agree and good luck to you. I know another lady who had a child at your age and the family is thriving. My mom had me in her 40s and her mom the same. I'm happy to be alive. My parents are quite healthy despite being elderly and get along amazingly with my child.

@Rosinda but nobody says that a child shouldn’t be born because they might be mauled by a dog. People
are saying here a child shouldn’t be born because their parent is older.