To think my mother should put me above Church and praying now and again

[fairyfly]

Actually writing that down i probably am being dreadfully unreasonable as it is a sin to put others before God i think.

I am just sulking as i wanted her to babysit and she said, nope, i will be in church praying for you instead. Sanctimonious sod.

YANBU

YANBU.

i'd tell her to quit praying for me as i am going to hell .

could she not have prayed at your house?

yanbu.

I had a friend who once had a boyfriend (I say once because she hasn't had one before or since) and she broke up with him when the relationship became more physical because "he was coming between me and god.". .

Oh yes i could have said lots of things to pee her off such as, well i will just have to have sex at home then while the kids are in bed.

FF - where did you want to go?

yanbu

it's a difficult feeling, knowing you are not your parents' no. 1 priority. i never understood that parents should put their kids first until i had ds. now i don't understand how parents can be Christians and say they love God more than anything else.

Well i am spending Easter just with the boys, so i thought i could go out on Thursday and catch up with an old friend for a little bit of Adult time.

Isn't it a different love and certainly not exclusive? I'm still trying to understand myself.

FF, what was the context of your situation?

x-posts.

Does she help in other ways?

No she will have the children when she feels like it on her terms, which is fair enough, but now and again i just want to do something and she will always say no as she likes to be in control.

As for other ways, well if i ever tell her anything she doesn't come and see me she goes to church. In fact she tells me to do the same with any problem whatsoever.

Last week i told her i would have to move out of my house as i couldn't afford the rent and her reply was, ask Our Lady to help you. So when the bailiffs come round i will be on my knees wondering why the hell all my belongings are going.

Obviously this thread is only ever a snapshot of your whole situation but it does sound like your mother is not very hot on practical help, but maybe she still thinks she is doing her best for you. Can you find help elsewhere? Have you had any legal/CAB help re the rent?

sympathies ff.

on your knees 'persuading' the balifss to leave your goods

My mother once declined baby-sitting because she was helping at the lone parents group her church runs (I am a lone parent). She couldn't see the irony at all but did eventually take DS with her.
Have no suggestions but wanted to empathize with you. Guess that god and our mothers work in mysterious ways.

Entirely sympathise but have to say that even church-goers can be misguided!

naught, beetroot, veeeeery naughty!

Oh forget the rent, i will sort something, it's just an example.

I am just sulking basically as my boyfriend was moving in this weekend and now it a great turn of events i am alone. Which is fine and my children are lovely, i just would like a bit of me time before i do it as i probably will feel pangs of loneliness.

I shall invite round a bottle of gin and waifs and strays from bus stops and probably have a fantastic time.

But to the point of the thread, in general i don't really understand the point of being sat in a church morning noon and night praying for all and sundry. But i am loosing my faith the more i communicate with my mother.

Perhaps should go and see my priest, or invite him round for Easter

Or perhaps i can give blow jobs to bailiffs for Easter, my lord, no wonder she is praying for me, i am twisted.

priest and the balif

amusing myslef with different spelling of ballifs

It sounds like the start of a joke

or a poem

The Priest and the Bailiff game to tea

Isn't it frustrating to have different priorities ?. My friends mother, who is a staunch church-goer, asked her when her DD1 was going to be christened....because until then, "she is no more than a pet !"

Rent forgotten.

Enjoy the gin.