To think my mother should put me above Church and praying now and again

[fairyfly]

Actually writing that down i probably am being dreadfully unreasonable as it is a sin to put others before God i think.

I am just sulking as i wanted her to babysit and she said, nope, i will be in church praying for you instead. Sanctimonious sod.

My Grandmother lit so many candles it's possible that she was largely responsible for global warming but if you needed her she'd be the first there, ready to help in any way she could.
It's amazing how some people manage to stick to the letter of a religion and miss it's spirit.
If I were you I'd start going to her church and having little chats with her priest. It won't improve your relationship but it might make you feel better when she starts to witter on to say, "Well actually Father X says ..." and watch her flounder.

Hello, ff, haven't read this but am back frm the pub. You okay?

I have my own priest and go to chrch nw and again, he is lovely and i feel very lucky to know him. He is full of joy and spirit.

I feel guilty as i am slagging off a family member who obviously believe what she believes and who am i to argue.

I just don't understand it.

Yeh i am fine Sykes, the lack of sexual intercourse has turned all my attention on my mother over Easter. Next step is buying a dozen cats and growing a moustache.

I don't understand it either.

It's not like Catholicism is anti-family. I think God would forgive her missing church for looking after her grandchildren.

Sometimes it helps to vent

Well yes exactly wt.

I'm v confused.

Is it ok to vent about things like this online, i am not sure it is you know. Honour thy mother and thy father etc....

I'm fine, thanks.

Goodo

FF say 5 Hail Mumsnets immediately.

Honour good.
Assault with frying pan making satisfying DOINK bad.
If venting prevents the second I think you'll get a free pass on the first

Hail Mumsnets!!!!

Your Mum sounds like my MIL, fairyfly1 My own Mum goes to Mass once a week, is mildly bothered that I don't but would look after the ds's for me at the drop of the hat. Unfortunately MIL lives 15min away and Mum is 2 hours away.
These things always remind me of a poster owned by a girl I went to boarding school with which stated
"God wants spiritual fruits, not religious nuts".
And feck it, I know, LGJ is probably right and you have to respect her religion but I feel your pain!

Hail Mumsnet, full of vipers....

I can't continue with that for fear of upsetting Catholics, myself included.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=7-ZnPE3G_YY

My God.

Cod (faaaa-shonnn-eeeed) Maureen and Cappuccino's cousin Espresso are in there.

that her 'faith' manages to make you feel so guilty about her crap parenting.

Well impressed with the lady in the leopard print. Though I did pine for the 'get the big hat down from the loft, Songs of Praise are coming' headgear.

At first my sympathies were with your mother, FF, but when I read your post of Tues 2309 I began to see your point. Enough to make any sane woman scream.

I suggest you make other babysitting arrangements so that you don't have to justify yourself to your mother every time you want to go out.

I have never been able to rely on family for babysitting, and currently belong to a babysitting circle which means I have a number of other mothers living nearby that Ican call on and who know my dc well, and I pay them back by sitting for them. If you are a single parent, your payback might have to be having other people's children during the day rather than going out in the evening.

i'm a devout christian, but no offence fairyfly, your mum sounds loopy! And you are right there is more to christianity than just going to church and praying, if i had a choice between going to church and helping a family member it would be my christian duty to do the latter.
sorry about caps feedind ds atm

Hurrah, she is loopy, it has been officially diagnosed.

As for a babysitting circle i would love to sort one out but i cannot get my head round how it works for a single mother. I am not free in the days and i pick my children p from after school club everyday and take them home.

I suppose weekend days though? I shall try and get my head round how yo set one up.

I still feel bad about ripping my mother do shred, but this is in my opinion is what Catholism does to you, makes you feel guilty and justifies loopy behaviour.

Ironically i went off it all when i was taken on pilgrimage to be forgiven for being pregnant. I just thought how dare i have to be sorry for the child in my body.

Anyway shall try not to slag off the chirch any longer, i already have enough hell tokens this week for saying cunt.

Hell tokens? For saying cunt?

Shit.

Please tell me how the token tally weekly system works. I am much alarmed.

I think I ight be in trouble :

I was raised a Catholic. Luckily I got over it and became an Anglican
I have a friend who is a devout catholic and he basically says anyone who isn't Catholic will go to hell. I say he obviously hasn't read the Bible beyond Malachi...

Oops should say I know some other Catholics who are utterly delightful people, so not all of them are like my friend!

Well i will miss out half off what my mother says about non Catholics as it is outrageously offensive. But the list of people going to hell is huge. Including people that don't have a Saints name .

What she doesn't get that if she was born in another country she would probably have a different Religion. I find conversations with her infuriating, so i don't have them. I have taken to nodding and saying, yes of course, Jesus would want you to have some Lithium for lunch, he told me.