To find SIL's behaviour a bit odd.

[GymOClock22]

I'll start by saying I have nothing against SIL. We aren't really friends but will have a chat at family gatherings. I'm perfectly willing to hear I am being PFB about this.
I'm currently pregnant with mine and DH's first baby. We had scans a few weeks ago and got some prints for both sets of our parents.
We posted the scan on FB to let friends know (I know this isn't the most popular thing on MN).
Today I went round SILs. I very rarely go to her house but she had packaged up some baby things for me. Which I am grateful for. However when I went into her utility room with her I noticed that she had my scan picture pinned to her noticeboard. Isn't that a bit strange? I was taken aback at the time so didn't say anything. Would this make you uncomfortable?

I am guessing it’s where she had the gifts and the picture of the scan was a reminder to sort out the baby clothes for op. So no I don’t think she is weird.

Has it occurred to you that she printed off the picture to show to her own kids, and that maybe they are excited about their future cousin?

Mine would have been. In fact, they are teens now and still would be. I bet they’re talking about it at home, and that’s why the pic is pinned up. Honestly, OP, you should count yourself lucky you have a SIL who is excited about your future baby (& is already giving you baby stuff too!).

Yup agree. Apart from my own dcs I find them mind-numbingly boring and samey. The fact that you went to such lengths to display yours suggests you felt people would actually be interested. So when they are what’s the issue? Or is this just Round 2 of Everyone Focus on my Scan? I’m afraid that’s how this is coming across to me.

I think it is so sweet.

It shows that SIL is excited to be Auntie.
It is also new as it is the first baby in the family. The first one is often special for the whole family.
Be ready for a spoilt child.

I don’t think SIL is that interested. No one has taken any notice of my previous post but I am convinced thatI’ve cracked the case.

SIL posted the scan on the utility room wall to remind herself to sort out baby clothes to give to op - which is very kind.

So you’re happy for it to be plastered all over Facebook but you’re all offended that your SIL has it on a notice board in her utility?!?! FML 🤦‍♀️

Agree. There’s just some huge kind of non sequitur in OP’s reasoning here.
Did you want people to take notice of it OP? Which is why you put it on FB. Or not? In which case why did you? Or is it the fact it was the utility room? I’m really struggling to see where you’re coming from.

Ok to post on Facebook for everyone to see and ok to take free stuff from her for the baby but it’s strange she has your scan pic to look at?? Christ on a bike!! WTF is the issue exactly??

I wouldn’t have shared the photo online in the first place, maybe you want to rethink that now you’ve seen how easy it is for others to access and make copies of whatever you post.

I still don't think you've explained what the problem is.

You have shared the scan pic with your family and friends. They have shared it as a sign of their love for you. Your SIL loves you enough to want a photo of her unborn nephew on her notice board.

Isn't this a nice story?

I don't think it's particularly weird

Probably anyone who' is on your Facebook page can also print a copy of your scan.

I don't think it's weird. I gave scan pics to family members. They all had them up until the baby came.

What's weird is printing and framing scan photos for your parents.

Did it have voodoo puns stuck in, or was it offensively defaced? If so, yes, SIL is odd. If not, then OP is odd.

Absolutely! everybody knows when something is posted on social media you need to like & share it online so that others can boost the likes & shares of the original accounts regardless of the picture/topic - so yh. For somebody to actually look at the photo, recognise a family member in it & ... print it off to put somewhere only they will see it everyday is like basically saying fuck you & your non existant popularity!

😒

A good lesson for you about how you lose control over anything of your child you put on social media.

Your instincts are telling you to be protective of their privacy.

But no, there's nothing weird about her doing that I think it's sweet.

I think once it's on social media you need to consider the floodgates open.

I sense an overbearing aunty on the cards.

What an awful attitude. This baby is going to be a relative to other people who hopefully, if OP is lucky, will care about them and be there for them if the chips are down.

There is literally nothing weird about it - you are the one who splashed it all over social media OP

YABU. I think this is quite normal. My sister stuck my scan photo on her fridge.

I have to say I really hope that doesn’t happen to me as a grandparent.

Imagine if you got them for all your grandchildren and trying to explain who was who!

I treasured the ones of my dcs but for people beyond the parents it really is just a rather hard-to-make-out intra-uterine photo. No way would I be posting my uterus online for all - with or without little passenger!

Scan photos either do something for you or they don't. I was thrilled and excited about both my daughter's pregnancies and love my DGDs with every fibre of my being. But I'd be stumped if I was presented with a framed photo of a scan. What on earth do people do with these things?

Medical science is wonderful, and yes, it's amazing that they can monitor the growth in there. But it's just a blob. The photo would neither be aesthetically pleasing to have on my mantelpiece, nor would it have any emotional meaning to me. On the other hand I can't have enough photos of my actual grandkids now that they're in the world.

Having said that, SIL is clearly one of those people who does like them, so that's surely something that you have in common, @GymOClock22. You should surely appreciate that, and recognise that an enthusiastic in-law is a good thing.

I totally agree. It’s not just your baby. It’s your DH’s baby too. And his side family has as much right to be excited as your side!

Poor in laws, can’t win on MN! It really depresses me, I’m a mum of two boys - I have no hope to be part of my sons’ future families, do I?!

I think it’s sweet. I was very excited when my sister had hers and I have photos of them up. Why does it make you uncomfortable? That’s her niece or nephew!

Surely this is nice, rather than weird?! She’s clearly happy for you and thinking of your baby’s arrival if she’s bundling up things to pass on.

I fear the OP won’t be returning to the thread because 94% of us disagree with her and are therefore odd!