To find SIL's behaviour a bit odd.

[GymOClock22]

I'll start by saying I have nothing against SIL. We aren't really friends but will have a chat at family gatherings. I'm perfectly willing to hear I am being PFB about this.
I'm currently pregnant with mine and DH's first baby. We had scans a few weeks ago and got some prints for both sets of our parents.
We posted the scan on FB to let friends know (I know this isn't the most popular thing on MN).
Today I went round SILs. I very rarely go to her house but she had packaged up some baby things for me. Which I am grateful for. However when I went into her utility room with her I noticed that she had my scan picture pinned to her noticeboard. Isn't that a bit strange? I was taken aback at the time so didn't say anything. Would this make you uncomfortable?

😆😂

My dhs best mates kids birth announcement cards are on my notice board, they're now 8 and 5, am I a weirdo?

I think it’s nice, she clearly cares enough to print it out and display it, she must be excited about being an Aunty. Just enjoy that others are wanting to be part of your baby’s life x

Sums it up perfectly

You find it odd because you are not close to your SIL and you are only thinking about her relationship to you. So you're thinking "why would this woman that I only speak to a few times a year, have my baby's scan photo on her pin board?"

But this is her brother's baby too! And her response to that scan is excitement because her brother is going to be a father. It's not about you!

You're being weirdly self centred about this and forgetting that the baby is your DH's too. And that he has a family and they're excited that there's a new member of it on the way.

Sister in laws and mother in laws can't win on here.

I would never put a scan on FB.

If you put it out on FB then why shouldn't she. Take it as a compliment she has such an interest in your child. She could be a great babysitting resource in future. Why not talk to her more and it won't seem weird then?

I see nothing odd here, with it being her brother’s baby.

And this is what happens when you put personal stuff on social media….take it as a warning as to what you share once your baby arrives

This wouldn’t make me uncomfortable.

Sorry but once you put the scan on social media it’s in the public domain and anyone can do what they like with your photos. If it was a copy from her parents scan, that’s maybe different.

You may not be close to her but that’s her brother’s first baby and she’s giving you baby clothes too, I’d just be grateful my baby will have a lovely caring auntie 💖💙

I think it’s sweet, also might be a handy way for her to remember the dates

I'm perfectly willing to hear I am being PFB about this.

You definitely are being PFB about this.

What “behaviour”? Sounds like a perfectly ordinary thing for a close family member to do.

A sister-in-law with a bit of warmth and generosity of spirit? Sounds like a win, to me.

So she showed she's excited about the baby in two ways - by taking the time to organise and bundle up new clothes for you and by printing the scan pic and putting it up. I think that's nice and the two behaviours are consistent with each other. Be happy that your extended family cares - they're the ones who should and nobody else really does.

Yea that’s a bit weird. I know a few people that like to print out other people’s social media pictures and always find it a bit odd.

Although I’d feel a bit funny about it it’s probably not worth making a big fuss of, I’m sure she’s just very excited.

I had a scan picture of my brother baby.
I thinks it's odd that you don't mind posting a picture online but you think it's weird that a family member has one in her house.
Will you also find it weird if she has a photograph when the baby is born?

i think it’s sweet. My SIL is sooo involved with my kids and they are so close so I think this is an excited aunt to be that’s all x

I don’t see a problem, isn’t it nice? She’s looking forward to a niece or nephew. As it’s on social media I’m sure she felt that it was ok, and assume a parent gave her a copy?

And? Maybe she thinks you're weird for posting it on SM instead of sending her a copy personally.

She sounds lovely 😊

Are you sure it was her that put it there? Could have been your brother or one of parents so it didn't get lost.

I think that’s really sad tbh. She’s obviously excited enough to print it out. Maybe she wanted a proper Copy..

Aw I think it’s sweet, but like others said, it may not be her who printed it out, it could be your brother.

It’s also WEIRD to frame a picture of a baby scan and give it out to people.