Dating new person

[Kolbie]

Hello,
Recently began dating someone who says ex was a gambling addict so left a long-term relationship over this. He said she was aggressive and violent. I have asked if can get her side of story through a third party speaking to her.
He says this is unreasonable and he is being honest, nothing to hide. I can see his point of view about involving ex however I feel like I only have 1 side.
Should I continue with him?

Okay a friend was saying to me social services will re-house without much investigation, person with children just needs to declare themselves homeless but if that is the case that's even more worrying

@Kolbie even if that were the case (it isnt) WHY would she declare herself homeless and move house if she didn't genuinely fear him?

It doesn't add up, BECAUSE HES LYING.

I'm a male victim of domestic violence - I'd love for you to tell me I'm being dramatic.

Think of how it'd read if you were accusing a woman of being dramatic about domestic violence, then have a word with yourself ffs.

Yes it could be he is lying and it is her who is a victim of domestic violence or they were both violent?
Is it a possibility a relationship wasn't working so someone accuses someone of something v serious to get housing? Or she was projecting her violence on him? Honestly don't know what to think or how well the authorities investigate these matters

I'm sorry to read this, that's awful.

Perhaps they were both violent, it's possible.

However, SS get to see police reports. They won't leave kids with a DV perpetrator.

It's not possible to accuse someone of something to get housing. They will check and if there's no evidence of DV, then im confident she won't get housed.

Thank you but what if you declare yourself homeless with children for whatever reason led to a breakup? Does it have to be v serious to get housed?

I don't understand why you keep going on about this, honestly. This man is clearly not the one for you, there are too many issues and you don't trust him.

Very sorry to hear that, I was just posting my own personal experience dating men with "crazy ex's".

I guess I am trying to make sure I am not mistrusting his story unreasonably but think I will have to cut my losses given the series of flags as people are pointing out.
Sometimes you wish to be wrong but reality is you need to face the music.