How many times a week does your partner go out

[Fairyfeet46]

For abit of context we are arguing about this every single week so i would like to know if i am being unreasonable or not. This relates to time for hobbies and seeing friends

We have three children, 7year old boy, 13 month old girl and 3 month old boy (yes i did have two kids with a 10 month gap, im crazy i know)

My partner is always out! He works a standard monday to friday in an officr 8am-3pm. I am currently on maternity leave and have been for just over a year.

He goes out to play pool on a wednesday, thursday and friday night to play and see friends (from 6pm-10pm) football on a sunday morning to play. Every night after work he goes to the sunbed shop with a friend and goes out with them 'for drives and to chill' most nights for two hour or so. He goes to a friends house every tuesday from around 8pm until whenever he feels like it and saturdays are for him to catch up on sleep!

I do 100% of the household chores which i dont mind doing as i am on maternity leave and its like my job but im doing 99% of the parenting aswell, every single bottle, every single bath gime, every single bed time, every single nappy, every single night time cry, every messy meal and usually on my own.

Would you say the amount of nights hes out is reasonable and im being dramatic because i cant get out or is this completely taking piss with two small children?

Its come to a head today because i was up with both children all night and managed 40 minutes of sleep so i asked him not to go football which he did cancel but then spent the morning asleep on the sofa while i went food shopping and made a big dinner (with the kids in tow with me) and now he has just left to go to pool as he didnt get to go football!

You have four children, your husband is the man baby. Your life would improve if you left him, within 1 day, you would have less washing, less picking up after said man baby, less meals to cook, feel less of a doormat. Restore self esteem. The best thing you can do is to kick his lazy, good for nothing, useless, premier league cuntychops, cocklodging body out of your orbit before your daughters think this is how their life should be.

@Lighrbulbmo OP doesn’t have a husband. This man is just a visitor who adds to her chores.

What are you getting out of this relationship? Seems to me your children are in a 1 parent family. He needs to get real and start taking responsibility for his passions!

With kids that age, once a week would be more than enough and you get the same time free. My husband goes out about once a month (if even) and our kids are 6 and 9. I go out a bit more as I come from a large family (birthday meals etc) so I would go out twice maybe three times a month. When the kids were very small we barely went out and would never leave the other one to handle bedtimes etc unless it was a special event or family occasion. You need to show him this thread OP or you agree that you get equal time to yourself. He will soon change his tune when he is left frequently on his own caring for 3 kids.

This thread is now quite old , I’d love to know how OP is and if the relationship survived this behaviour ?