To cook rice every night?

[RiceisLife]

DS (4) is on waiting lists for ASD and ADHD. He stims, he separates all his food, he meltdowns, he has v few friends, he refuses to wear certain clothes, he has a twitch anc struggles verbally. He is in mainstream school just started but they are kick starting lots of additional support

He is obsessed with rice. He barely eats breakfast, he has school lunch, but for dinner he is happy to try what we are eating (spag bol, curry) but he is really obsessed with idea of having rice on his plate. If no rice dinner becomes war. Tears, food on the floor etc

DH tells me I'm pandering. That if he's hungry enough he'll eat. I say it's so easy for me to boil a handful of rice along dinner, why not just make it??

It's causing real issues. We aren't united which is upsetting DS. We have wider issues about our different responses to DS and my heart is breaking to say that the stress of our son is killing our relationship - we hate each other a lot of the time

Anyway - rice - am I being too soft?

my cousin, god rest her soul, had a 3yo who would only eat pizza.

So, she bought a load of pizza bases and fed her fussy 3yo whatever the rest of the family were having (roast dinner, fish fingers, whatever) on a pizza base with a sprinkle of grated cheese on top.

I always thought that was exceptional parenting.

Your son sounds like a good eater - he has school lunch and likes to try different things at home but just likes a bit of rice on his plate!

As pp have said, lots of households have rice or bread with every meal - your son is only asking for it at dinner, once a day.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Sounds like your DH is undiagnosed and because he had to "fight it" he thinks your son should do.

I agree 100% with the rice pouches, we buy them when they're £1 each, you'd probably 3 portions out of them if you're giving a kid a small amount.

I've got another suggestion, which is to try and come at this from another angle with your husband. At the moment you both have entrenched positions on smoething and it's a fight. Can you try and find a quiet time with your husband when the kids are asleep/occupied, when you can have a decent talk about this?

It's bloody hard what you're going through with your son, and I'm sure your husband is suffering as much as you are. I'd recommend you try and come at this with a lot of love for him (your husband). Acknowledge it's tough. Acknowledge you both want the best for him. See if you can get him to drop his defences and find some common ground.

I think honestly a relationship therapist who is experienced with ASD would be a good shout at this point, if you can afford it.

I'd fuck off the twat H and invest in a rice cooker.

But what would I know? I have rice, egg, fish and 1/2 salad vegetables every weekday morning for breakfast at my desk. And DP cooks something with rice a couple of evenings a week as well.

5kg of shortgrain rice lasts us two months, as long as there's 1kg additional long grain/mixed with wild/Camargue/whatever rice in the shopping. Oh, and there's rice noodles and rice paper and GF pasta with rice in it. And potatoes/sweet potatoes for variety.

Life is fun being coeliac. Just as well I really, really like rice, isn't it?