Things you've done whilst dating to work out if they're decent or not

[LadyJelly]

I've recently been on a date with someone, so nothing serious yet. Nice. Attractive. Funny. He's a big football fan. His team lost today. I've just taken the mick (very lighthearted text about his team losing) to see what his response is. A shirty response will = no second date as getting angry or petty about football would ge a red flag for me (let's see!). Lighthearted response will be a very small green flag. As you can tell, I'm rather paranoid about domestic abuse. 1 in 4 women. And have missed the small signs beforehand. Maybe I'm being over cautious or ott.

Anyone else think it's madness that we go to these lengths to test the waters? Or that we have to? Or am I being daft?

Did you read the whole thread?

Women are wise to test whether a man is safe to be around, our lives may depend upon it.

OMG he's an idiot, you don't tell people that they are under test, they'll go onto their best behaviour if they know that they are being tested.

Of course he shouldn't trust someone he's only just met! It's not personal against you at all.

You could be waiting for decades for some situations to come up.

Not who you asked, but I was over an hour late for my third date with my now DH (Tube strikes and the knock on effect of that). He had a large glass of wine and a smile waiting for me, which was nice.

It was an excellent indicator of his temperament. Also, I’m rubbish with punctuality at the best if times (although not to that extent) and he is super punctual, but genuinely doesn’t give a toss that I’m not. So, as an early compatibility test, it was great! 🤣