Attention seeking woman at work driving me insane

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Name changed as outing to anyone that works with her!

She’s driving me insane, seriously - to the point where I have urges to shout at her or literally walk out. Shes so loud, constantly shouting and screaming. She’ll literally scream all of a sudden, waits for everyone to ask what’s wrong and then will say “I’m just so bored!” Or “I’ve just remembered it’s pizza for tea!” Or some other stupid shit.

She’ll randomly throw her papers up in the air and say “it’s stressing me out!” And everyone laughs. What exactly is funny about that?? Maybe the first time I’d laugh but when it’s a weekly thing - not so much

On Friday she suddenly slammed her laptop shut and screamed. Of course everyone was like “what?? What??” And she’s sat there lapping up the attention before declaring “I’ve just seen that my favourite band are touring”. Everyone laughed and said “Jesus I thought it was something serious”. It’s never serious, it’s always something stupid.

She’ll get up and suddenly start dancing - even getting up on the tables etc. at Christmas she brought in a load of those dancing snowmen/santas/clapping monkeys etc, set them up all around the office and turned them all on together. The voice was unbearable. The manager made her get rid of them in the end so she screamed and pretended to cry.

The woman infuriates me. I don’t even know why she annoys me so much. I seem to be the only one not laughing! Before anyone says I’m jealous, trust me - I’m the most introverted person ever, the last thing I want is to be centre of attention

She’s actually making me consider changing my job. I can’t stand it. I’m literally dreading going in tomorrow.

Can't you just say "that scream is piercing, unseeded and unprofessional. Please can you stop?" In a calm voice. And repeat over and over again if needed.

I work with her too, she must double up in education. Can you talk to a more senior member of staff 'confidentially about approaching a colleague' and explain as you explained here. This is an utter PITA when I mentioned her twin to my boss I said the white noise they generated was affected my well being thus making it a health, safety & well being issue. It has been noted.

Again stop bandying about the term personality disorder when you clearly don’t know what it entails.

Oh god, yes. The people on here and their fucking amateur diagnoses.

’it’s a personality disorder’
’they must have autism or ADHD’

and the classic:
’could they have early dementia?’, said of anyone from 20 upwards.

Theres someone on another trending thread claiming to be a doctor, who has diagnosed an OP as having OCD on the basis of fuck all and a hunch.

😄not as far as I know!

I don’t mean I spend every minute of the day desperate to be giddy, I get on and work hard most of the time but sometimes my mind wanders and I get excited about silly things. I’m conscious of my coworkers and try not to get too excited too often but im
sure they’d say I don’t do that often enough!

I can assure you im Nothing like the OPs colleague because that sounds off the scale crazy, even to me!

I worked with a woman like that! She would shout out loud OH MY GOOD GOD and we would be like ‘what what?’ and she would say ‘I just saw the line out for Man Utd. this weekend and Mickey Whoever is NOT playing!!!!’ Ahhhhhhh! (None of us were into sport)
And if a bee or an insect came into the office she would scream so loud that people would hear her on other floors.

She was completely hilarious, so glad I was not her boss though because she didn’t care less about actual work at all.

You have no hope of getting rid of her. NHS aren't very good with things like this. If it was a corporate field she'd be gone.

I feel for you.

Please tell me she isn't patient facing?

lol, the actual post under my point about amateur MN psychiatrists.

Your manager sounds ineffective.

i wonder if there’s a health condition here. Only because your manager seems to avoid having a discussion with her. Do they know of additional information that is justifying their actions?

I wonder if it attracts more of these types as it seems its hard to get rid of people in the NHS (and they know it).

I was genuinely about to type the exact same (rhetorical, because it must be?!) question but thought I’d read on to see if any one else had picked up on this.

I mean, come on!!!

No it isn't. Don't be ridiculous

Theres someone on another trending thread claiming to be a doctor, who has diagnosed an OP as having OCD on the basis of fuck all and a hunch.

That would be me.

And I'm not "claiming" to be a Dr - I am one.

And my opinion is based on reading the words in the OP and my years of professional experience, as opposed to "fuck all and a hunch"

Oh and FYI - "potentially" and "possibly" mean just that. I have not "diagnosed" anyone with anything. My words were it's possible based on the OP.

Hope that helps and you have a lovely day 😀

Even if there is a health condition here they need to see if it can be prevented

It’s driving me bonkers! Personality disorders, serious mental health issues, severe depression…. People just can’t help trotting out crap that they know absolutely nothing about!

This would drive me up the wall.

I'd be having a quiet chat with my manager about this and explaining how disruptive her behaviour is. It's so unprofessional that I am absolutely shocked she's been getting away with it as long as she has.

I think your colleagues also need to be told to stop humouring her. The more they laugh, the more she does it. People like this love to be the centre of attention and any attention is good attention.

I think everyone can guess what her reaction will be if she is ever pulled up on it-play the victim.

I've often wondered how people like this get away with it for so long. I don't understand how a manager didn't pull her up for dancing on tables. Her behaviour sounds absolutely bonkers but it's even more bizarre that she's never been called on it.

Does she have the type of personality where it's very obvious that if she is ever called on anything that she will pull the victim card and be rather...vindictive? That's the only reason I can think of why she hasn't been pulled-that the manager is worried that there could be repercussions if they do act.

@Deathbyathousandcats

She sounds awful, OP. Definitely talk to you manager/HR about it. She is being very unprofessional and disruptive. Can you move desks/workstations to get as far away from her as possible?

Hahaha. Calm down Freud fgs.

I think it might be measles

I have no idea who this woman is but I want to slap her 😅

Next time she does it I would turn round and say “oh my god, shut the fuck up! There’s no need in the noise and hysterics, you’re driving me mad!”
watch everyone else follow suit. Honestly: just takes one person to be honest and stop pretending she’s funny.

How have you not snapped by now?! My temper has toned down over the years but I basically tolerate stuff until I explode
I would have told her to STFU by now

I think you’re right 🤣