Attention seeking woman at work driving me insane

[Gloc]

Name changed as outing to anyone that works with her!

She’s driving me insane, seriously - to the point where I have urges to shout at her or literally walk out. Shes so loud, constantly shouting and screaming. She’ll literally scream all of a sudden, waits for everyone to ask what’s wrong and then will say “I’m just so bored!” Or “I’ve just remembered it’s pizza for tea!” Or some other stupid shit.

She’ll randomly throw her papers up in the air and say “it’s stressing me out!” And everyone laughs. What exactly is funny about that?? Maybe the first time I’d laugh but when it’s a weekly thing - not so much

On Friday she suddenly slammed her laptop shut and screamed. Of course everyone was like “what?? What??” And she’s sat there lapping up the attention before declaring “I’ve just seen that my favourite band are touring”. Everyone laughed and said “Jesus I thought it was something serious”. It’s never serious, it’s always something stupid.

She’ll get up and suddenly start dancing - even getting up on the tables etc. at Christmas she brought in a load of those dancing snowmen/santas/clapping monkeys etc, set them up all around the office and turned them all on together. The voice was unbearable. The manager made her get rid of them in the end so she screamed and pretended to cry.

The woman infuriates me. I don’t even know why she annoys me so much. I seem to be the only one not laughing! Before anyone says I’m jealous, trust me - I’m the most introverted person ever, the last thing I want is to be centre of attention

She’s actually making me consider changing my job. I can’t stand it. I’m literally dreading going in tomorrow.

Someone probably got to the end of their tether and yelled at her to shut the fuck up.

@rainbowbee - I would have probably been fired, but I wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from mentioning something about it being a physical manifestation of her behaving like an arsehole/PITA.

The most alarming thing about this thread is how many of these people are about. So glad I work from home! Only got the dog to worry about 🐶

The situation calls for someone else to meet her head-on with similar behaviour to compete for office clown/arsehole. This woman will not want competition, or any focus of attention off her. It’s a shame you can’t hire ppl for the task and pay them by the hour - “This is Debbie, she’s going to be working part time etc” and sit back as ‘Debbie’ locks horns. This is reality tho unfortunately and it’s unlikely to get any better unless several ppl make the same complaint. I suppose the only thing you can do OP is speak to senior management, HR - tell them how it is affecting you and impacting on your work - they must do something! Good luck

Where do people work that this is allowed? Wouldn’t have been where I worked.

Required where this unprofessional behaviour is tolerated and not addressed. Most workplaces would not allow flying coke cans because of a wasp - in most places that behaviour would result in being hauled in front of HR.

@KimberleyClark I would imagine in this scenario it would be fine. Where someone can cover others in coke and do random screams all the time, I think there would easily be a good argument to wear air pods to improve your concentration and productivity

Was she made to clean up the coke can mess @Gloc ?

I suspect she's neurodivergent, not that that helps you at all. Management need to take this on. You need a relatively calm working environment.

You can be an arse without being neurodivergent. I really hate that neurodivergence has become a code word for being an inconsiderate or problematic person.

Only on Mumsnet!
No one else ever says “ Perhaps she has Autism” when someone is an attention seeking dick.
Here being ND is an explanation for everyone being difficult to be around

Either ND or the other favourite diagnosis :
”Narcissistic “
( Usually for someone like a mother in law or mother) .

This and get the rest of your team to join in taking it in turns to increase the madness.

Sara - OOOH Pizza get exta cheese

Paul - oh my god you need to get a thin crust

Jane - Noooooo it has to be deep pan !

Nic - Eeeeeeeek you absolutely have to get exta bacon

Lucy BUT WHAT ABOUT THE SIDES , WHAT SIDES ARE YOU HAVING ?

• *and on and on and on until she looks completely baffled, then instantly all stop at the same time and carry on with your work in complete silence

God I identify with this so much lol.

I have a personality disorder and I most certainly don't behave like that!

The one I worked worth was just an attention seeking cowbag. She was also a bully. No excuse/reasons there.

We shouldn't be diagnosing people from our armchairs, PLEASE can everybody stop doing that!

Mine too @HoneyButterPopcorn

Why does there always need to be an excuse for someone's behaviour.
Why can't it just be because they're an annoying pain in the arse?

ive Worked with one of these. Regularly used to have a glass of wine with lunch and so the afternoons were COMPLETELY unbearable

There doesn’t always, and I’ve worked with bullies and whingers and annoying people, but full on screaming in the middle of the office suggests to me that there may be a bit more to it.

Even if there isn’t, I think deliberately planning to make fun of her in advance is passive aggressive and a form of workplace bullying. Speak with the woman or complain to HR. If they can’t do anything ask for one of you to be moved, but don’t publicly ridicule her.