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Gloc · 2024-01-07T20:25:42+00:00

Name changed as outing to anyone that works with her! She’s driving me insane, seriously - to the point where I have urges to shout at her or literally walk out. Shes so loud, constantly shouting and screaming. She’ll literally scream all of a sudden, waits for everyone to ask what’s wrong and then will say “I’m just so bored!” Or “I’ve just remembered it’s pizza for tea!” Or some other stupid shit. She’ll randomly throw her papers up in the air and say “it’s stressing me out!” And everyone laughs. What exactly is funny about that?? Maybe the first time I’d laugh but when it’s a weekly thing - not so much On Friday she suddenly slammed her laptop shut and screamed. Of course everyone was like “what?? What??” And she’s sat there lapping up the attention before declaring “I’ve just seen that my favourite band are touring”. Everyone laughed and said “Jesus I thought it was something serious”. It’s never serious, it’s always something stupid. She’ll get up and suddenly start dancing - even getting up on the tables etc. at Christmas she brought in a load of those dancing snowmen/santas/clapping monkeys etc, set them up all around the office and turned them all on together. The voice was unbearable. The manager made her get rid of them in the end so she screamed and pretended to cry. The woman infuriates me. I don’t even know why she annoys me so much. I seem to be the only one not laughing! Before anyone says I’m jealous, trust me - I’m the most introverted person ever, the last thing I want is to be centre of attention She’s actually making me consider changing my job. I can’t stand it. I’m literally dreading going in tomorrow.

Otalask · 07/01/2024 21:25

Well she's obviously annoying but not worth stressing about. She's not mean or lazy or dishonest or anything, just a pita. I wouldn't want to put another person's job in jeopardy because they were a bit annoying so there's not much you can do. Lots of people are annoying.

ireallycantthinkofaname · 07/01/2024 21:25

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

This is satire, right?
......Right?

Deathbyathousandcats · 07/01/2024 21:26

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

Well, this is a new level of weirdness. Even for here.
’Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart’?!

Rinoachicken · 07/01/2024 21:27

You want to get one of those repeating cactus things - so when she screams it will scream right back at her

Pollyannamex · 07/01/2024 21:27

Well I literally have no heart then cause this would drive me insane

EveryDayIsASchoolDayOnMN · 07/01/2024 21:27

I don’t even know why she annoys me so much

REALLY?? You don't know why she annoys you - REALLY?!!

She sounds a complete attention-keeping nutter, and a complete bore.

MoleseyMom · 07/01/2024 21:27

Jeez, she sounds dreadful. I had a similar experience earlier this year. A new woman single handedly ruined the atmosphere of a pleasant productive office by her chronic attention seeking narcissism. She didn't shut up, not even for a nanosecond. Me me me. All day long. I feel your pain.

EmmaEmerald · 07/01/2024 21:28

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

this is one of the most bonkers things I’ve read on MN

whatever is missing in my life, I work in a professional manner.

shoesday · 07/01/2024 21:28

She is not the problem.

Yes, she most definitely is the problem.

Sorrynotsorry2 · 07/01/2024 21:29

Crying 🤣 abso fucking lutely

TheCurlyKnobhead · 07/01/2024 21:29

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

WTAF?

ClairDeLaLune · 07/01/2024 21:30

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

Bahahaha! Are you the OP’s colleague? You sound as batshit as her.

2 words OP: Justifiable homicide.

Dominoeffecter · 07/01/2024 21:30

HunterBidensBurnerPhone · 07/01/2024 20:40

It sounds like she has a personality disorder.

That is NOT what a personality disorder is

Sorrynotsorry2 · 07/01/2024 21:31

MojoMoon · 07/01/2024 20:52

Imagine how she would respond to visiting the Sistine Chapel

Crying 😂 abso fecking lutely

Sphynxcatenthusiast · 07/01/2024 21:31

Sounds like mental health issue or personality disorder.
Nonetheless, very annoying and distracting.

EmmaEmerald · 07/01/2024 21:31

Gloc · 07/01/2024 21:14

Thing is I’ve only brought it up to the others once and I very much got the impression that the situation was best left alone. Something has obviously gone down in her last job. Manager seems reluctant to get involved other than peering out of her office periodically and telling “everyone” to keep the noise down.

Shes so much worse on a weekend when its skeleton staff and no manager

Yes, definitely

there might be some reason that they find it difficult to fire her

it amazes me how many people in senior management are wet lettuces in this respect. It’s often not a solid legal problem. Just someone senior cba dealing with a troublemaker

Memyselfandtheothers · 07/01/2024 21:32

HunterBidensBurnerPhone · 07/01/2024 20:40

It sounds like she has a personality disorder.

No it fucking doesn’t! Jeez!!! This is such an insult to people with actual personality disorders! Can we stop with the shite armchair diagnoses please!

OP, my sympathies - I couldn’t handle working with someone who behaves like that!

Isitautumnyet23 · 07/01/2024 21:32

You need to speak with your Manager and be honest and say its making your work life horrendous. She sounds awful to work with. How does she get away screaming in the office working for the NHS? If someone did that at my work, my Manager would be bringing them straight in for a meeting. Please dont let her drive you out if your job.

MoreStressMoreShit · 07/01/2024 21:32

That poor man with the migraine, how dare she manhandle him like that!

rainbowbee · 07/01/2024 21:32

I wondered if I'd written your post by mistake! My office has the same woman. It's unbearable. I called in sick once at the thought of a whole day of screaming. Thankfully we have a hybrid arrangement so it's not every day I have to put up with it. Someone complained about the noise and she stamped and slammed and shouted about how she doesn't defer to men and then went off crying. The drama. The actual boss is too scared of her volatility to tell her to stfu.
I have changed my desk and I bring in earplugs and headphones and don't engage. Godspeed OP.

HRTQueen · 07/01/2024 21:32

Let me guess Sunshinealways8 you are an extrovert

us introverts are not jealous of extroverts or feel we are lacking, what we often do find annoying in the lack of self awareness some extroverts have in not realising that not everyone finds them as interesting as they find themselves

Pluviophile1 · 07/01/2024 21:33

Sunshinealways8 · 07/01/2024 21:24

One word about your post seriously caught my attention. Through all the talk about your coworker(and there was plenty)it was the one about yourself that I was drawn to. You mentioned that you were “introverted”. I think this could be the issue. Sometimes when we have problems/dislikes with other people it’s because subconsciously we see things in them we wish we had. So although you may be an introverted person and don’t want to draw attention to yourself, deep down you may be lacking this attention in your own life. I don’t know your home life but perhaps you aren’t getting the affection you need from your partner or don’t have one. Maybe you are lonely. Whatever the issue is I think it’s best to concentrate more on asking, what is lacking in your own life ,rather than focusing on this worker. She is not the problem. Humans like her are here to test how much love and empathy you have in your heart. You could try getting to know her better and find out why she acts so childish. It’s clear her need for attention is deep rooted in something she didn’t get as a child and shes used to having to fight for it. Sounds like she needs a real friend.

I cannot stress this enough...NO.

Nope.

Floogal · 07/01/2024 21:33

Sorry but that actually sounds hilarious 😂. Mind you, I can imagine it wearing thin eventually.
I used to work with a man like that at the convenience store. He would scare customers away by playing his guitar and singing. He was harmless and well meaning, but I could see why some people found him annoying

HowdenHouseForSale · 07/01/2024 21:33

https://www.anonymoustext.co.uk/

Other anonymous text providers are available. Tell her that it’s impossible to tell her to her face due to the drama that would then ensue but that the office would really appreciate it if she could not perforate their eardrums on a regular basis 🙉

Greenpolkadot · 07/01/2024 21:33

PringPring · 07/01/2024 20:40

Speak to your manager or HR, whichever is most relevant in your work place.

This would drive me mad!

I'd be tempted to note her histrionics /dramatics down for a couple of weeks to illustrate how she's distracting and affecting everyone.

Excellent idea to make a note of what she does and everything she does it.
It would drive me insane working with someone like this. I would probably lose my temper if she made me jump by screaming.
It seems she likes the attention though