Attention seeking woman at work driving me insane

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Name changed as outing to anyone that works with her!

She’s driving me insane, seriously - to the point where I have urges to shout at her or literally walk out. Shes so loud, constantly shouting and screaming. She’ll literally scream all of a sudden, waits for everyone to ask what’s wrong and then will say “I’m just so bored!” Or “I’ve just remembered it’s pizza for tea!” Or some other stupid shit.

She’ll randomly throw her papers up in the air and say “it’s stressing me out!” And everyone laughs. What exactly is funny about that?? Maybe the first time I’d laugh but when it’s a weekly thing - not so much

On Friday she suddenly slammed her laptop shut and screamed. Of course everyone was like “what?? What??” And she’s sat there lapping up the attention before declaring “I’ve just seen that my favourite band are touring”. Everyone laughed and said “Jesus I thought it was something serious”. It’s never serious, it’s always something stupid.

She’ll get up and suddenly start dancing - even getting up on the tables etc. at Christmas she brought in a load of those dancing snowmen/santas/clapping monkeys etc, set them up all around the office and turned them all on together. The voice was unbearable. The manager made her get rid of them in the end so she screamed and pretended to cry.

The woman infuriates me. I don’t even know why she annoys me so much. I seem to be the only one not laughing! Before anyone says I’m jealous, trust me - I’m the most introverted person ever, the last thing I want is to be centre of attention

She’s actually making me consider changing my job. I can’t stand it. I’m literally dreading going in tomorrow.

It's because your introverted, your two opposite sides of the coin. That's why you don't like her

Nice theory, but I'm pretty sure it's just that the OP's colleague is a cunt.

I've worked with someone like this, it's exhausting. She would scream if a fly was in the office. Child-like all the time, and really inappropriate. Fortunately our manager was great, and she got this woman to see that this really wasn't the role for her. I don't think she could have changed her behaviour, it was just how she was.

Why is it there has to be something wrong with the quieter person? Why can't it just be that this woman is a melt who would be a drain mentally to work with.

last time a wasp got in she screamed and threw a can of coke across the room - an open can of coke. It went everywhere.

i would ignore the histrionics as much as possible but this I could not ignore. Think I would have matched her for pure drama- you can’t throw open drinks cans in a shared office. Would she be happy if you saw a wasp
on her and chucked coke all over her? Doubt it.

words would be said, her emotional intelligence & overall stability questioned, followed by an ‘wtf is wrong with you?’ All this followed up by a sharply worded email to safety rep (if there is one) or HR demanding separate office space from this nutter.

Yes, you would never get someone saying "oh you are so jealous of the introvert, being able to sit there quietly and get on with her job"

But apparently people automatically must be jealous of the "fun-loving" cant shut the heck up extrovert who brings life and joy annoyance and noise to the office

There’s 3. We have someone like this at work except she’s also nasty with it. It’s a nightmare, I can’t stand her and I absolutely feel your pain! Maybe have a quiet word with your boss.

Her: Ohmygod OHMYGOD EEeeeeeeeek.

Everyone: What!?

Her: I've just remembered it's Pizza tonight!

You: Ohmygod OHMYGOD. Are you sure? Pizza? Actual pizza? Are you really sure? PIZZA? OHMYGOD. EEEEeeek. (Climb onto chair) I can't believe Pizza is ACTUALLY happening. OH. MY. GOD.

And then maybe you could burst into tears? Or faint?

I would not describe myself as an introvert @Sunshinealways8, but this woman's behaviour would drive me round the bend, and I would have complained to the manager long ago.

I would 100% HIRE introverts. Especially those who know how to be just enough extrovert (which is most). Much of what people think is “natural” intro/extro behavioral traits are learned or cultural, or situation specific. Like teacher gives points for “class participation”, introvert who wants good grades will speak in class. Introvert will do extrovert behavior to get a bonus, promotion etc.

Recommend a book called “Quiet - the Power of Introverts. “

Why is everyone laughing at her antics? Is it awkward laughs? I would tell her not to scream as it is annoying. I am sure everyone will be relieved.

Laugh affectionately at her and tell her she reminds you of your niece, she does exactly the same. Then drop in that your niece is 6.

Or just tell her outright to grow the fuck up.

@Sumthingsweet

Has she got ADHD ?

Having ADHD doesn’t cause you to do this.

My dd has ADHD and she would never do this.

Sounds like someone with insecurities needing constant attention to validate themselves.

Some people are just LOUD ( and a pain in the arse)

People laughing are just encouraging her though as she loves the attention and makes her feel popular.
Reality is she’s very unpopular !

I’ve worked with one like this. Drove me up the wall.

Every day some drama. Once don’t come in for two days as she had a headache (no call, nothing) - she was sooooo iiilllllll that she couldn’t even crawl to the phone (and did the boss say anything? Did she heck, she bought her chocolates to cheer her up).

Chased after another colleague until he dumped his live-in girlfriend then danced around the office singing ‘I’m in love with a pretty wonderful guuuuyuuuu’. She was always singing and dancing (badly) in the office. She was the hero of everything.

She realised I didn’t care to stroke and swoon over her (I chose to keep my head down and ignore her) so she’d make nasty ‘jokes’ that would target me ‘bla bla bla… oooooooo…. Soreeeeee Honey, tee hee hee’.

I was ready to do her a mischief, I swear to god. I have worked with all sorts of people (including certifiable sociopaths) but she is the only person that when she flew off on holiday I was praying for a flock of birds to get sucked into the engine.

Awful creature. Almost 30 years on and she still makes my eye twitch.

Yeah - I'd have to restrain myself from suddenly losing it and (instead of sensibly approaching her for a talk) doing this.
Then - while everyone is gobsmacked and staring in awkward silence - I'd calmly clamber off the chair, sit down and resume typing without saying another word.

This is great advice! Keep the focus on you and how the noisy/distracting work environment (not naming names) negatively affects your work and offer solutions.

This situation sounds annoying as hell, but I'm surprised at the number of people suggesting bullying and/or inappropriate office behaviour as a response (shouting obscenities at a work colleague, ffs).

Headphones are your friend. I’m sure she is grating in everyone else’s nerves but people like that don’t /can’t believe that the world doesn’t adore them.

Choose to feel pity and amusement - it’s really not worth getting your blood pressure up over.

I think when your secure in your own skin and character you hold all your power ,no matter what anyone does or says around you .

I wouldn’t pay her any attention and just try to do your work move desks if too much

Naah! I’m very secure but screaming when do my head in.

I worked with a 'C' who did this

At first I was sympathetic but she'd do it every 20 minutes

It got to the point we'd just walk away from her

She moved on,and judging by her sm,she's not changed

Honest to God,she'd cry at the smallest thing-once a wasp flew in at the other end of the kitchen-tears

I burnt my arm-she cried

The till froze-endless sobbing

The boss asked if she'd mind staying on for less than 5 minutes-gulping tears

It was bloody draining-but when we all tried to bring it up to management,she called us all bullies!

Catherine Tate immediately came to my mind!

Oh and to add, our one will occasionally announce something outrageous if she thinks there's not enough attention on her. It's usually something horrible about her bum hole. She has issues in that area. I wish I were lying. And then when people look up, she'll grin and grin around the room. It's infuriating.

Brilliant.

I assume you possess Google? Perhaps try using it.

Is her name Ginny?

Linda?