Do all males think like this ffs

[Princessbananahamock]

Met up with old school friend male for a catch up it’s been years. Only for a couple of hours. I left saying when it’s warmer I may pop out again. A perfectly non commitment comment. Roll on a week multiple messages “been thinking of you all week x, fancy meeting up next Saturday or sooner if you can’t wait”
I am actually angry at his presumption that he assumes I’m interested in him in a romantic way! Seriously what goes through their minds. Oh she’s single (separated) she must be in need of a man. My attentions must be what she’s dying to hear. There were more statements but you get the gist. I was not flattered either.
Perhaps he sent those messages after a few drinks but still unacceptable. The whole experience reminded me of the character Mr Collins from Pride and Prejudice.
I don’t think I shall ever be meeting up again!

She would have made it clear she was interested if she was. FFS.

Think I might be missing something here but you're angry because an old friend enjoyed your company and wants to see you again?? Just because he's been thinking about you doesn't mean he fancies you

I suspect drink was involved, maybe even hard drugs... but all you have to do is tell him that you don't fancy him.

Hmm tbh I wouldn’t have met up with an old male school friend that I hadn’t seen for years unless I was romantically interested anyway as I just wouldn’t see the point so maybe he thought you was interested?

Someone who was on an old school page friended me on FB. I assumed he was someone I’d remember at some point, as old memories were discussed. He had many mutual friends.

in fact he just keeps suggesting we meet up, calling me madam etc. pillock. Doubly irritating because I still haven’t worked out who he is. Common name.

I don’t see the problem, he’s flirting with you- that’s all! If you’re not interested then tell him. It’s not hard.

All men are the same, as are all women, all people in England and all foreigners.

YABU! Gosh how dare a man ask you out?!

An alarming amount of men are like this, I have a problem with a colleague now, i thought i was well on my way to invisibility and past all this, but as soon as he's got divorced he's sniffing around my back end on text, even though he KNOWS that I am very happy with my partner! I am wondering what on earth has made him think im interested as I am 1000% NOT! It's embarassing.

Have you been sniffing glue ? Give your head a wobble.

On what planet does that text suggest he was on hard drugs? Baffling response.

*ILikeItWhatIsIt · Today 13:04

Would you have been ok with it if you had been interested in him I wonder?
She would have made it clear she was interested if she was. FFS.*

But... this is him making it clear, politely, that he's interested. Why can only women make it clear they're interested?

If she fancied the pants off him she'd probably be delighted he was desperate to see her again.

Fine if he was attracted to you to message and tell you he was interested/ask you out. But multiple messages?! With no response from you in the middle? Or repeatedly asking you out when you had already declined?

I don't think he's done anything that wrong, other than misread the situation. I think his message is quite tame to be honest, doesn't have any sexual connotations or sound entitled. Just reply saying you had a nice time but you're interested in anything romantic.

That should say say NOT interested in anything romantic

Just say 'think you've messaged the wrong person, pal. Lol! How's you?'

It does get annoying. I've been single for a long time and the amount of guys who either ever so kindly offer to sleep with me, or tell me they can't because they are happily married after a normal conversation is unreal.

I even had one semi famous guy from the 80s lecture me about his wife and how he had been with her for ages, and got super snappy with me every time i asked him a relevent question when it was my job to help him set up for an event, and I was doing just that.

I don't think it's all men, but I do think there is a high percentage of guys who assume that you want them just because you're single.

I made a playlist on Spotify called 'Not Interested' at one point and sent it to quite a few people 🤣

No, we're not all "like this". I tended to have the opposite problem and not see it when women actually were interested in me!

I don't think that this guy has done anything particularly horrendous though, he's just indicated that he'd like to see you again.

If you're not interested, just tell him!

IME a lot of men seem to think you fancy them. I'm friendly in general and I've had multiple men come on to me assuming I'm interested.

No idea why men are like this - but I think a lot are

If you can't wait? This really made me laugh. How egotistical is he?

Good for him for taking the risk, the only problem is he is wrong, if you liked him you would be delighted. If you liked him and he didn't send that message you'd be disappointed. He played his cards, that's all. Maybe he doesn't assume you fancy him because you are single. Maybe, God forbid, he likes you and that's all. I don't see any entitlement in this. As for guys approaching women, why do women assume they are full of confidence, they might be quaking in their boots before they approach, they might be gutted when rejected but still find the courage to rise above it next time. I'd think well done to him.

@Princessbananahamock

No, all men are not like that. Just because a man messages you more than once it doesn't mean they're dying to get in your knickers or that they think you want to get in theirs. Perhaps he just thinks of you as someone who could be special in his life. I'm assuming of course that he's not sending you dick picks or describing what he wants to 'do to you'.

Could it be that he's had a 'crush' on you going back to school days? I had an old schoolmate tell me that once at a class reunion, but his interest wasn't returned and he dropped it.

Anyway, I don't feel you need to get in such a high dudgeon about him messaging you multiple times unless you have messaged back plainly that you are not interested.

Some people (male and female) don't get the 'silent message' that a non-response can mean. If you aren't interested in a romance, just tell him plainly and politely that his interest isn't returned but that you'd like to continue to be friends (if you want to be friends, that is).

Good good he sounds like a creep!
Never ever come across any man like this. And I have met up with a lot of men ive made acquaintances with due to industry I work in over the years.
Though thinking about it I've never been single in these scenarios so I'm unsure if i would get these kinds of remarks if i didnt have a DP. Or...it could be because I look like a potato
😂
Next time youre in a situation like this, make sure you talk about a particularly savage poo you once had to cement yourself into friendship territory.

He fancies you, your problem?

It's just stupid. I'd be annoyed too and would NOT be meeting up again.