to leave 9 week old baby with Grandparents to baby sit for a a few hours?

[Sailawaygirl]

My DP are old (70's) but loving having their only grandchild who arrived recently and constantly asking me to pop round with DC. Previously my DM has made lots of comments about her friends having to do lots of baby sitting for grandchildren ect and so because of this i made it clear that i would not be expecting any baby sitting from them or child care when i go back to work. ( and i don't think they would manage an extended time any way).

But .... my DM bought me a massage voucher at xmas with the instructions to book massage and she will have baby while I go. I also have some dentist appointments coming up and need my hair cut.

DC is breast fed - but has taken a bottle from DP when i have been out at times. I admit we probably need to give DP bottle more to get him more used to it (so this is our bad)

I left DC with them yesterday to go to an appointment - 2 hours - left them with full bottle but gave a big feed and changed nappy before and left pram as DC falls asleep as soon as he is walked in pram.

When i came back DC was crying his eyes out, my DM looked like she had been through a hedge backwards and my DF had a 'thank goodness your back expression'. they said DC had just been crying for 30mins but I suspect DM said that so I didn't feel bad and DC had been crying for longer. DC was hungry and they said he wouldn't take anything from the bottle. Gave DC boob and he was fine.

DP was at work.

As we all know - hard to get after work appointments so DP can look after DC. I also (selfishly on reflection ) popped into M&S to buy me some clothes so i could have been back about 40 - 30 mins earlier but it was nice just to do a normal bit of shopping for a while! but now i feel terrible and wish i hadn't

AIBU to leave DC with grandparents for 2 hours for hair dressers and 2 follow up dentist appointments?

Should I cancel and try and rearrange my appointments for later in day when DP will be about - although this will delay treatment and hair wise - i cant see because my hair is in eyes (I'm growing out a pixie cut to be a more manageable bob) so im living in a hat. I know parenting is about compromise and sacrifice ect. i don't spend that much time on my appearance anyway.
I was ok about it yesterday but feeling very sad and teary this morning.

I wouldn't have any concerns about the ability of 'fit and healthy' Grand Parents to safely look after my baby, guessing they've probably got some past experience of that from somewhere 😉 but only once baby is happy to take a bottle.

Maybe invite them round to yours to babysit while you're hovering in the background somewhere until baby is content with them doing a bottle feed then try again at their house.

Your comments really aren't well thought out are they thejanuarypinks?

Not always true. Some breastfed babies do take bottle from the mother. My son did.

Yep both of mine took bottles from me no problem although it was very rare that I'd be the one to give one.

One of mine would only take a bottle from me. Helpful!

2 hours is a very long time for a 9wo breastfed baby to be left, especially when he's not used to the bottle.

I do think you were BU

When you become a parent you need to put your child first. You and your DP should have made sure he was used to a bottle if you were going to leave him for such a long time.

If he was formula fed it would be different story with the amount of time, but 2 hours is ridiculous at that age.

At that age I would say an hour is tops and even so your parents should have your number and be able to call you if they think he's getting hungry, not just have him cry for god knows how long.

I don’t really think you can leave him until he will take a bottle. When he will, it’s perfect fine to leave him with people you trust.

I had my granddaughter for a couple of hours when she was about 12 weeks. I was terrified, even though she’s not my first grandchild. She just slept, pooed and ate.