To want to drink nice drinks at a party if that’s what I take?

[TempleOfBloom]

We often socialise in groups at each other’s houses. I don’t like Prosecco, and always take Cremant or Cava, or if red something mid range and drinkable.

Then inevitably get poured repeat glasses of the cheapest available Prosecco or nasty mass produced generic red that others have brought.

Can I reasonably manage to open and drink bottles I enjoy, or should I cut my losses and also take cheaper bottles and glug it regardless? (I can do this, I just don’t really enjoy it, so drink a lot less, which is fine)

I’m not talking really expensive connoisseur type bottles that I take, just mid range drinkable.

Usually whoever’s house it is will ask what we want to drink, at that point, I’d say, ‘I’m not so keen on Prosecco, can I have a glass of this/that/the bottle I brought/the cava’ however you want to say it.

I remember an awful ex of mine saying 'I don't drink cheap champagne' as we toasted the engagement of people he hardly knew. Thank god that relationship ended. Don't be like him and drink what you're given and be gracious. Then, when it's your turn to host - give out the good stuff.

I went to a BYOB party at a (very) minor celebs house once. Brought a reasonable bottle of red (about £10) which was a lot for me to spend at the time. Poured a glass for myself and left the bottle in the kitchen. When I went in to replenish it was gone and all that was left was utter rubbish cheap plonk. What kind of person ditches the wine they've brought themselves to pinch someone else's. Bring whatever you want to drink yourself!

Allergic or it just makes you feel unwell?

I'm totally fussy about my drinks. I only like 2 brands of prosecco and one of wine. My friends know I'm a fussy git so hide mine away for me. I usually bring a box or couple other bottles to add to the mix

My friends know me well enough to know I prefer my own wine and I bring my own and drink that. Might bring another different bottle as a gift for the host. This isn't a snobby thing though as I only like blossom Hill white zinfandel and will buy something more expensive for the host/everyone else to share!

The people I socialise with are real friends and wouldn’t judge me or be annoyed if I said I preferred a certain drink therefore brought it with me

Depends which one you buy I think.

Our friends group has a being what you’re drinking understanding. Host usually does the food and nibbles and everyone just brings what they want to drink and tops up when they want. Something like that may work?

Ahhh Mumsnet you never fail to disappoint

1. Take yours
2. Open yours
3. Drink yours
4. You’re welcome

When you arrive and you're offered a drink just say: " Thank you, do you mind if I open this - it's the only one I've found that agrees with me recently" and laugh it off about getting older and tolerance changing, hangovers and headaches the next day are worse etc etc I always do it as if I'm drinking I want to enjoy it.
Like a PP said, take two bottles , one that you'll open and one to gift for everyone to enjoy x

Pour it yourself & bring more than one bottle?

Just say, I’ve brought my own ( your nice one) and a Prosecco for the host because you need to know how much you are drinking.

I’m another one who feels ill on Prosecco and is fine on champagne. I’ve even done a blind taste test on myself. I’ve now got to the stage where I just blame perimenopause and swerve the Prosecco offered to me aa it “no longer agrees with me” ask if we can pop the cork on what we brought with us (chilled champagne) - or ask for another drink entirely so as to avoid the dreaded Prosecco. I always bring another gift for the host so it’s not like we are “using” the host’s gift if we do open what we brought.

I feel like as an adult with close friends one shouldn’t have to lie eg say X gives a hangover but there’s a way to soften the truth as not to seem too harsh. 😂

So bring a bottle for the table and one for you. Then say “I’ve brought this bottle for me as XYZ doesn’t agree with me.” It’s not a lie as the cheap prosecco doesn’t agree with you as you find it disgusting 😂

Find people who drink better! So any red bottles is mid-high range or high quality Prosecco which is way way better than the cheap un drinkable one! :-)

I thought it was understood that some hosts keep the good stuff for later and serve the cheaper!

I’d bring two as well. One for the table abs one for me . I’d be honest abs say I ike what I like and I’ve brought my own .

“Hi, lovely to see you, now you really need to try this amazing [insert drink here] - where’s the bottle opener, back in a sec…”

🤓

Prosecco is revolting. You need new friends.

Can you take a sulphite free mid range and claim the sulphites aren't sitting with you? Cheaper bottles are usually not sulphite free.

If your friends are your friends they won’t mind you saying ‘I don’t really like that bottle, so I’m going to open the one I brought with me’. If they do have a problem then perhaps you need to make friends with new people. I wouldn’t be offended if one of my friends said that. I’d be more embarrassed if they felt like they were always drinking s**t wine at my house!

@TempleOfBloom i would say you have to be careful what sort of wine/Fizz you drink as get bad headaches with some and you've found ones that don't affect you so you'll bring them and stick to drinking them. I have to be careful with what wine I drink as some make me itch and others make my head kill so I stick to what I know I'm OK with

Prosecco really doesn't agree with me gut wise. I bought some non alcoholic over Christmas. I drank so much water during the night I was parched and still felt terrible. I'm fine with a mid range cava. Ill with some champagnes.

Unfortunately hosts and
Guests are providing prosecco these days.