Drinking wine each evening

[Mamabear2424]

Is it ok to drink wine every eve?? I have a glass , sometimes 2 every evening and I love it, it makes me happy. Dh says mental health more important so if it makes me happy I should just do it. I am a healthy 40 something with a professional career. I just love wine.

If you’re asking internet strangers the question, deep down you know you have a problem and are on a slippery slope.

I think it's really unfair when ppl refer to 'if you're asking strangers on the internet....'. I mean we are all strangers and every single post is asking a stranger!

I agree. Sometimes people want to ask a bunch of strangers. There’d be a paucity of MN posts if we only polled folks in rl.

OP if you can’t even consider doing dry January, without thinking that it will be bad for you then you have an alcohol problem that you don’t want to admit to.

Yes if someone is a very heavy or dependant drinker, to white knuckle dry Jan and get back on it to the same level as before is going to be dangerous. Its not going to be harmful for someone drinking 2.5 bottles of wine a week to do it

Sounds like you have a responsible attitude towards your wine, nothing wrong in my opinion.

No cut down now or it will be a bottle a night soon.

Maybe find something else for the other evenings that makes you happy that isn't food/drink related?
I love a boiling hot bath, or a new book or I go swimming outdoors for that sort of feel good thing

My drinking is.. random I basically don't drink unless I go out and then I drink a lot so binging
Haven't had any alcohol for about 18 months, never drink at home. But I grew up in pubs and that was enough to put me off

When you hit peri menopause you might have to stop, so tbh, I'd go with what you plan and carry on drinking for five days. Once you are out the other side, you can drink again. Just many women find the menopause symptoms are made worse by alcohol. I'd start adding lots of beans and pulses to your diet for artery health.

To all those people talking of a slippery slope, plenty of people (most) never drink more than regular amount, their whole life. We are worying too much about the OP drinking even more. She will probably never drink more but the point is she's drinking too much now. He drinking isn't only a problem if it increases, its too much already.

My late mum had a glass of whisky every evening. She gave up at the age of 83 and shortly afterwards she died.

Recent studies show that there is no benefit to this. Every time you have alcohol you're increasing your risk of cancer. It's sad, but it's true. There's a great Science Vs. podcast about how much alcohol consumption is safe.

So from the point of view of your physical health, it's not good.

All the women in my family drink to self medicate. We seem to all be really tightly wound and edgy in my family for some reason and find it hard to settle.

I was also drinking to self medicate. It started as one glass a night, then two. Then some things happened in my life that meant before I knew it I was having 2/3 a bottle a night. I realised that it was making my nerves worse...which was initially the whole point of me drinking. So I decided to try and stop. My rule now is I drink outside the house, no problem going to the pub for a pint or having wine at someone's house. But I don't want to drink at home alone anymore because for me that's about masking anxiety and as I'm getting older I'm finding it does the opposite.

"Stirling2701 · Today 07:57

My late mum had a glass of whisky every evening. She gave up at the age of 83 and shortly afterwards she died"
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What exactly are you trying to say here?

Unless they're lying about their drinking.

@CrackersCheeseNoWinePlease Well done to you

I'm also doing DJ and pleasantly surprised it's been far easier than I had expected. I find it helpful to think of solidarity up and down the UK, with lots of people doing it

Teens that need picking up in the evenings plus peri menopause that means a thumping head the next day after just one large glass with dinner plus looming awareness of mortality are 3 reasons I and my late 40s/ early 50 something friends are cutting right back. Also we all went to the funeral last year of our friend that drank her white wine daily.

A university friend is an oncologist for throat and mouth cancers her patients are pretty much all smokers and drinkers.

Are you suggesting the whiskey kept her alive 😅

Priceless

I think it sounds like too much and you are relying on it. I can really recommend books such as quit Like a Woman and The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober (there's loads of others, search for 'quit lit'). They helped me reframe how I saw alcohol and went from a glass of wine 4 times a week to none but without feeling deprived at all, I feel liberated from it and feel so much better.

I did this for over a decade. Alcohol is a poison. I think of it as "the English Disease", this acceptance of drinking at every event and every night, because "it's just a couple."
I get it. I am in no position to judge, having been there myself. I am now "alcohol lite" (two glasses every couple of weeks or so) and while there was no epiphany and wonderful life changing effects, i know i feel better, make few silly mistakes, get more done in the evenings, make better decisions and perform better at work.
i had a lovely day with DH and the in laws by not drinking; they were pleased that i volunteered to drive us all out to the restaurant for the meal we had planned. FIL did have a good few drinks and let loose which her rarely does. when we got back home, he turned up the music and started dancing. It was so funny and nice to see, and better than me having a drink.

Well yes...
was hoping someone knows a nice one!

@dingdongdoo89

It's trial and error / personal taste with AF wines, but I've read that sparkling whites tend to be better than still white / red

In case it's helpful, I like (1) Kylie, (2) Freixenet and (3) most of all, this one https://momentumwines.co.uk/products/vilarnau-zero-alcohol-sparkling?variant=40895268126897&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiAkeSsBhDUARIsAK3tiee4uAyNlUsRbJAek0BvtclFiWl2DI-uokPEBgYPPdeRR5WoGe7g5T8aAjHDEALw_wcB

I drink a lot less than I used to. While I’m not interested in asking the OP her age, hers is the attitude I had in my thirties. I enjoy drinking so why not? As we get older and the reality of our own mortality kicks in, the idea of protecting ourselves from decrepitude becomes more important than a short lived lift from alcohol.
Also in our society wine drinking is viewed as sophisticated, unlike drinking cans of lager. If the OP were drinking 2 or 3 cans of lager a night would would her drinking be viewed differently?

@Tilllly see my post at 8.40 re AF wines. Some are a lot better than others

I thought it was better to do days off in a row. 2 is good to start with but ideally 3. Then the liver has chance to recover.