@MrsBennetsPoorNerves I'd be interested to see the link as to where they got the 14 units advice from please.
OP, just my opinion, and you'll likely dismiss this cause I have a problematic relationship with alcohol - but I think that every day drinking, no matter how little, is a slippery slope. It creates a habit, and an association with drink=relax, also your tolerance always raises so that one glass isn't enough eventually.
I barely drank at all until in my 30s. Just nights out and occasions, the very odd weekend at home. I started drinking one glass of wine in the evening in my 30s, progressed to 2 (half a bottle ish), then crept up to 1 bottle a night - 70 units a week. That's when I really felt the health problems start.
Eventually ended up on over 100 units a week and looked and felt like utter shit.
Cutting down seemed so difficult, but I decided that no more than 10 units every other night was do-able. My reasoning was it's only one night. I managed that and actually started being fine with my not drinking nights, enjoying no hangover. Still 35 units a week though.
Now I'm down to between 10 and 30 units a week, depending. Longest I've gone completely without is 2 weeks.
I'm concerned about the reported cancer risk, but what I've read about it is so conflicting, depending on who you listen to. There is credible evidence saying no level is safe, and credible evidence saying that a small amount is beneficial for health, especially heart health. Want to become healthier but not sure which advice is correct.
I've also seen good evidence that your liver is at very bad risk on 35 or more units per week, which a hell of a lot of people are on.