Women with inattentive ADHD who are living their best lives - how do you do it??

[herewegoroundthebastardbush]

I suspect I have ADHD as it explains a lot about me (so does EUPD but I'm struggling to find much useful about that - but hey anyone with EUPD living their best life, I'd be very interested to hear from you too!)

I am a procrastinating, forgetful, binge-eating, rejection-sensitive, occasionally irrationally angry mess. I feel like my life needs a total 100% overhaul but I'm right in the middle of a lot of things (my kids' childhoods basically). So a lot of things I'd like to change I can't (living situation, job).

I am struggling particularly with the following:

(1) binge eating. I am seeking support for this with the NHS but the waiting list is loooong.

(2) emotional volatility. Very up sometimes but also and more often very down.

(3) my job. I love my colleagues, theoretically I love my work. But I constantly procrastinate, back to work two days this week and I did almost fuck all really. My work isn't clear or important enough for people to really notice so I can. But I'm actually quite moral and I am constantly guilty and anxious for wasting their money by wasting their time.

If you have ADHD and kids and are living a happy life, please tell me what that looks like. What kind of job do you have, how do you keep things going, how do you maintain your equilibrium?

Yes definitely get that too! @Santiagopink

Classic quote from DH today (though he's not that 'dear' to me right now). "Some just use the condition as an excuse, like interrupting people. That might be nothing to do with adhd. You might just be a rude person".

DH is unashamedly ignorant. He has no idea and won't be told.

Hello fellow travellers! I am trying so hard to get myself to a better place and all your advice has been so so helpful <3

Progress report: I am setting reminders for EVERYTHING on my phone, with recurrence where appropriate, the minute I remember. My children have been actually GIVEN their multivitamin every day this past week! I remembered to put the bins out! I remembered to pack my DD's sports kit BEFORE the exact minute we had to leave the house! And I will remember these things tomorrow, and next week, because reminders. I'm a bit scared by how many are in my phone now, but it is actually incredibly simple and effective and I don't know why I never did it before. So thank you those who suggested it. I have to be really careful what TIMES I set them for though, as if I'm reminded at a time I can't act on it EXACTLY THEN it's useless, I turn it off, do something else for two minutes then completely forget. But so far so good!

I have made a request for a referral for ADHD assessment with my GP. Now to navigate the hateful system of them calling me without warning, me missing the call etc etc etc forever - but a pin has been put in this which hopefully will one day come to something.

I had a horrible day yesterday because I lost my work pass (because it was in my pocket not round my neck, because I broke my lanyard ages ago and kept MEANING to get another one etc). Buggered up my whole morning, made me feel panicky and useless and get all upset. Found it in the end, now it's round my neck on a bit of ribbon, because I may NEVER remember to go to Estates and pick up a new lanyard but I have ribbon right here right now 😂We do what we can!

So it may not be my best life, but it is already getting better - I get a little hit of joy every time a reminder goes off and I DO THE THING straight away, so much nicer than the horrible jellyfish stings of guilt I usually swim into as I remember things I forgot to do.

Thanks again everyone who posted - I will be putting into practice more of your suggestions and I WILL become semi-capable one of these days!

PS - yesterday was a binge day because I let myself get upset - but today and Monday I have eaten like a normal person and feltand still feel no urge to binge. Hurrah! Baby steps.

@herewegoroundthebastardbush, I'm wondering how your new methods have worked last year, now that we are in another year?! I appreciate I am a year late in replying but I put threads on watch and to read at a later date and I currently have 385 to read haha.

As a fellow AdHDer I am encouraged by your progress. I too live by phone reminders, but might opt for a diary. Then again, might need a phone alarm to prompt me to look at said diary! 😂