My eldest DS is 19, been in a relationship for a year and half. Boyfriend lives 2 hours away but they see each other around 2 weekends a month, either DS goes to him or he comes here.
I have no issues with him staying for the weekend although I worry about the relationship as he has mental health issues and he seems to use that as an excuse for how he treats DS a lot of the time. DS has a friend that's told me he doesn't let DS out of his sight when they go out together and constantly is holding onto DS. She has said DS seems uncomfortable but I've spoken to DS and he has said he's fine with it, and has now stopped speaking to her and some of his other friends who seem to have an issue with the bf.
He came here 2 days before Christmas as DS wanted him here and I agreed, he was in foster care and is still living with them but he isnt close to them and has told DS he feels like he's in the way a lot of the time. So I thought agreeing would be a nice thing to do for both of them.
It was fine until boxing day when they went out drinking and the BF was very drunk when they got back and was shouting at DS and waking my younger 2 children up. DS apologised and said he'd speak to him the next day, which he did but I had no apology or anything. He was due to go home Thursday but said he'd changed his mind. They both(i suspect mostly bf) made a mess in the kitchen and both didn't clean it up. They had an argument and when I asked them to stop shouting at one another and to be respectful of DS’s siblings DS told me not to get involved. They went out again last night and came back drunk which woke me up. I didn't go down to them but this morning I found out one of them had vomited everywhere. It had been attempted to be cleaned up (badly!). DS said it wasn't him and his bf said he cant remember.
They've gone out again tonight and I have a feeling it'll be the same. WIBU to just ask his bf to leave?