Anyone else dreading returning to work?

[Overstimulatedmom]

Had such a lovely time with my kids and husband and seeing family I absolute dread the return of everyday life. Working all day 5 days a week barely spending any decent time with my kids.

It’s even made me think about leaving my well paid corporate job and whether it’s even worth it anymore. I’ll never be rich anyway or well off enough to not worry.

What is the point in missing out on so much life for a bit of extra money.

ready to do job but only just over the xmas lurgs so could have done with a couple more days off- I am consoling myself with a day off each week this month to use up leave- today is this week's

Yes i did. For the past 6 yrs shes taken the piss and i always have to cover.

i really dont care what you think!

I don't work. My partner takes care of things. I love it. I can't imagine working snd missing out on my child's life.

I used to feel exactly like this but I love my job now so I am looking forward to getting back to it.
I’m single too and miss family life terribly so it’s been an emotional time this Christmas. Normality helps my MH

Good for you. Pity it’s taken so long.

Do you have anything to fall back on if needed?

Very risky if you don't have a plan B.

I’m not dreading, just a bit anxious about some of the things I’ve got coming up. I do wish I could at least work fewer days. Most of my friends don’t work at all, and have high earning partners. DH and I also earn above average, but it’s split fairly evenly between us, so couldn’t afford our lifestyle on just one person’s salary (and would be quite unfair to DH anyway!).

I’m 55 & work since I was 13. 3 nights a week after school, all day Saturday. I had 2 jobs in my 20s to help pay the mortgage. I’m just tired now. I’ll definitely be retiring at 60.

Good for you. Genuinely hope the relationship doesn't break down and you are left with nothing.
Crazy to give up NI contributions + personal pension + savings. Working doesn't always = missing out on your children.

This is absolutely me! I'm dreading going back to school on Wednesday - I've been having racing heart palpitations since Friday and haven't actually enjoyed this time off at all (worked more days than not, and I'm still not ready. I feel sick!)

I'm 60 (just), live alone and have done 30 years teaching in primary schools. I'm so tired, but can't even look forward to retiring as I won't have enough to live on...so have to keep working 😨

I wish I could do something else...but it's too late for me now at my age, and I'm already struggling financially, so 🤷‍♀️

Huge solidarity to all who are in a similar position...it isn't nice to feel this way is it? 💐

Trying not to dread it. I need to approach work more positively this year. I've been promoted to a point where I worry I don't actually DO anything anymore, so need to work on carving out an actual role which will keep me busy and engaged.
DH and I have just booked a couple of holidays - one is a real holiday of a lifetime - and I'm telling myself we work to be able to do these things in the hope that will keep me motivated.

A bit. One co worker is very loud and coarse and it's been nice having a break from all that. I'm also trepidatious about what kind of weaponised incompetence I'll find in the morning from the person who covered my role for a few days. Dislike working tbh.

Presumably you'll work when your child is old enough not to need you 24/7? Don't you want a pension and some financial security that isn't tied up in a man?!

If you can work part time / take a step back then do it. I took a step back a couple of years ago although it didn’t work out for me. Hubby kept making digs that I didn’t earn as much so didn’t contribute the same as him… Got the option of a promotion so took it to be back on an equal footing. But I loved the short time I had with no stress or line management responsibilities. If you have the support and it will make you happy then go for it - life’s short xx

I absolutely do not want to return to work tomorrow - I wish I didn’t have to work! I’m in a sector with limited opportunities so I am stuck for the time being. But I’m going to make some changes so my office job seems a bit more bearable. 1) starting earlier/ finishing earlier so I get more of my evening to do hobbies 2) a break outside with a cup of tea twice a day 3) having lunch away from my floor with a good book.

I work part time and get to spend time alot of time with our kids. Can you not condense your hours into 3 days or drop 2 days rather than not working at all.

Flo22 you better hope you never split up with DH if youre that dependent on him. Also good luck in later life when you have no pension. I would personally hate to be so reliant on someone else

I'm really looking forward to going back tomorrow! Honestly OP find a job you love, you spend most of your time at work so you might as well enjoy it

Well I feel the same op but I know I’d soon be bored. But I’m dreading it too.

I’m slightly dreading tomorrow but only because I’ve been sleeping later over the last 10 days and waking naturally after 8am. However, my alarm is set for 5.45 tomorrow ☹️ Plus, January in the Tax world is stressful especially with clients wanting their Tax Returns completed but not providing the information I need to submit it for them. It’s going to be a long month.

If I was in the office full time then yes but WFH mostly so really doesn't feel too bad.
Ive worked private sector and currently in the public sector (civil service) and whilst some benefits including wages where beneficial in private sector, i do largely enjoy being left to my own devices in the public sector and being in a role which means I'm not rushed of my feet.
I don't think I was ever career driven to progress too much into roles with added stress and now don't mind being viewed as one of the people who does their job and goes home.

Nope all is good. Thanks for your concern. I would rather bring my children up than anyone else

i feel exactly the same and only work 21hrs a week 😟
I don’t know how it’s come to this but after 16yrs I feel I’m DONE with the place. I do however have to find another job before I leave which just isn’t around in our area at the moment or really what is my ideal with the days/hours I work.
UGH!

@Flo22 I brought my DD up. Was there for nursery/school drop offs + pick ups. Only in nursery 4 days per week 9am-3pm but I still worked FT so didn't set my career and earning power back, full up NI contributions and my DD saw her Mum working and having her own money.