“I wasn't asleep”

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What is this phenomenon? Is it only in our household or does anyone else experience this.…

Watching TV, DH has eyes closed and is snoring.
Me: Why don't you go to bed to sleep? You must need it
Him: I wasn't sleeping

HE WAS!

It genuinely winds me up - why not admit you were sleeping. What's to gain?

My DH does this. Snores like a bloody warthog and then claims he was following the programme. Drives me nuts. If you’re tired, go to bed 😡😡

My late DM used to do this. She'd fall asleep in front of the TV and start snoring loudly. If I woke her to stop the snoring (because I couldn't hear the TV 😂) she'd hotly deny that she'd been asleep!

Actually makes sense 😂from my experience

He was having a nap in his own house and you're telling him to go to bed like a child !

Yes! Every single morning. He sets his alarm for the time he thinks he needs to get up at and snoozes 2/3 times but eventually turns the alarm off, going asleep instantly each time and then I wake him when I get up twenty minutes later. No rushing etc, this is actually the time he should be setting the alarm for.
Twenty minutes where I’m fuming btw, having listened to his alarm going off pointlessly every five minutes as I try to enjoy my last twenty minutes in bed before starting my day.
This is mildly irritating but on another level the whole charade means that even when I don’t need to be up (kids off school etc) it still means I am ‘responsible’ for making sure he doesn’t sleep it out. Like obviously he has never said/asked this and is blissfully unaware of my feeling of responsibility but nevertheless, I am afraid he will be late for work if I don’t wake him up. Yep.

I do this, or so i’m told. i often get woken up by DH vacating the bed due to my snoring,
but honestly I think Ive been awake and following an episode on my ipad. It’s when i’m in a really light sleep and can still hear stuff/voices so I think i’m still awake. It’s not exactly something that can be controlled though, I don’t realise i fall asleep or i’m already in bed when i do.

My husband does this. What I do now is record him on my phone then when he denies it I play it back.

My husband is the same! He usually goes to bed before me and when I go he is snuggled down and snoring. I'm as quiet as a mouse and get into bed very carefully, looking forward to reading my book - and then he suddenly wakes up and starts talking to me and denies he was ever asleep. He also wakes up and denies he was sleeping when I switch the tv off when he's snoring. All very annoying!

My OH is snoring right now very loudly with the iPad in his hand blasting away with something about guitars on YouTube🤬 he will swear blind he’s been listening to it and will then proceed to deny he has made the whole house vibrate from his snoring 😴 I feel ur pain op

I do that

You’ve just perfectly described my DP and it drives me nuts. It’s like living with a child who just flat out denies they’re tired when it’s blatantly obvious. It’s not a crime to be tired, go to sleep and stop snoring through the film I’m trying to watch. 😬😬

I can be watching tv whilst laid down but my eyes are open but i still sound like im snoring i suffer sinusitis so breathing is a little harder through nose so sounds like im snoring so on a night when im laid with hubby in dark he cant see if my eyes are open or closed and will sometimes assume im asleep. I do get what ya mean tho as my hubby will fall asleep and then deny even tho i do check first just to say told ya so lol

However, snoring away while someone else is trying to relax in the living room is grounds for going to bed.

Fkn Sweeney.

DP drives me mad with this. Watching something shit on the TV, falls asleep, I turn it over, he immediately wakes up and wants his programme back. I just want him to either a) go to bed to sleep or b) relinquish the remote to the peasants (i.e. me) and allow us to watch something we like if he's just going to sleep anyway.

Just resting my eyes!!

DH and I have had huge arguments about this. He will be snoring and I will try to get him to roll onto his side and he will flatly deny he has been asleep and insist that I am imagining the snores I have been listening to for ten minutes.

I think it's because if you have been asleep less than 10 mins you don't realise it. He obviously genuinely believes he hasn't been asleep.

I agree, same in my house and I end up watching what he was watching because he won’t let me turn it over because ‘he was just resting his eyes’

My husband falls asleep most nights while holding his phone. So he’s in bed scrolling beside me and I can hear him snoring, he’s no longer moving his thumb and maybe the screen has turned sideways as the phone slips slightly, he’s definitely not reading anymore. A couple of times he has dropped the phone so obviously I say ‘husband, you’re asleep, put your phone down’ or something as I am wary of him smashing it… to which he flatly denies he was sleeping. Why!? Why would you deny being asleep, in bed?? 😂

You sound angry and controlling

My DH does this! We've got a toddler and during the first year sleepless nights I used to struggle to get back to sleep, still do, but he falls asleep in 0.1 milliseconds! But if he wakes up after an hour he genuinely doesn't think he's been asleep, he never bashes me over the head with it and he doesn't snore so it's not a problem, but I've always thought it curious, how someone can be asleep but not think they've been asleep? maybe he wakes up as fast as he falls asleep!

We both fall asleep on the sofa (usually at different stages of the evening!).