To be a bit miffed at receiving alcoholic gifts for Christmas when pregnant?

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We announced to our family I was pregnant a few weeks ago, mentioning that would mean I can’t drink alcohol and enjoy some of the usual
Christmas goodies I’d usually have.

I remember specifically saying to my dad ‘that means I can’t have alcohol in the hamper you put together for us’ because in my mind, why gift alcohol to a pregnant woman who can’t drink? I am hoping to breast feed so won’t be able to drink for a while afterwards either.

Then on Christmas Day, I had a bottle of Prosecco from each my dad and my DH’s aunt, who also knows I’m pregnant.

prosecco is best drunk within a year. I’m a bit miffed that I can’t enjoy my present, and my DH doesn’t drink Prosecco. I also don’t ‘host’ much and wouldn’t offer to guests. So I will have to regift.

Am I unreasonable to be a bit miffed of receiving a gift I can’t enjoy? The Prosecco from my DH aunt was bottled in 2022 so I expect she just gifted from her wine cellar, so I’ve got even less time to drink that.

Miffed is the strongest I feel about this btw, I’m mostly curious what others think on this being a gift to give to a pregnant woman?

@ttcat37 It clearly isn’t universal because that hasn’t been my experience at all, and you always have a choice in who you choose to invest your time and energy into, pregnant or not. Yes people do ask about pregnancy/baby (it’s a huge part of my life currently so would be odd for them not to mention it), but family & friends- people who care about you- should also be invested in you as a person just like they should always have been! X

Haven't read the thread.

But I can be sure of two things, this is a PFB thread and unless you have the gestation period of an elephant the fizz will be fine. 😂

OP, rightly and understandably, your pregnancy and what you can and can't comsume is right at the fore for you, all of the time. Other people just don't think the same way you do at the moment. Assuming you're at least 12 weeks pregnant, they probably thought "she'll enjoy that in a few months once the baby is born". I am sure they aren't considering the intricacies of breastfeeding etc at this stage, it probably hasn't crossed their minds. I know it might seem deliberately thoughtless but I think you just have to put it down to you being the mum and others just not quite getting it - which I think is also prefectly understandable.

As a gift it doesn't show much thought or imagination whether someone is pregnant or not- but I couldn't get worked up about it. I say this as someone who doesn't drink alcohol as it triggers migraines for me and I've not drunk for 6 years now. However, MIL (who is aware) always gifts me a bottle red wine :) I just say thank you very politely and DH has it or I cook with it.

@Mrsttcno1 Ah ok, I’ll live a solitary life then with zero family, friends or colleagues then… Perhaps it’s that you’re ok with conversation mostly being around your pregnancy. Maybe as I’m further along and ill with it the novelty has well and truly worn off

if you drank so much alcohol you could die… your breast milk would have about the same amount of alcohol in it, as a banana.

To be fair I don't like gin so I wouldn't want that, but wine/prosecco is fine. At least I can drink it.

Much better than some plastic tat or gift pack.

What people believe and what is actually fact are not always one and the same.

I have no reason to believe that my ds was in any way adversely affected by my drinking prosecco once he was born.

And my point about the studies is true. A glass of wine now and then is not going to be unsafe, but it isn't something that can be proven.

People try to police pregnant women far too much.

Go on then, sounds like you'd be doing them a favour

@RedPandaFluff if you’re sober enough to care for your baby (and you should be), you’re sober enough to breastfeed. It’s absolutely minuscule amounts that go into breastmilk.

I bought most of my gifts in November (some earlier and some later) so tbh OP YABU. Sparkling wine can be stored for 3-5 years. So you have some time yet.

(Ps haven’t read the whole thread)

I agree @enchantedsquirrelwood. @kiwiaddict you sound a bit judgey of those of us who were content to drink a little (i.e. saying it's a "blasé" attitude). I researched carefully to make evidence-based decisions throughout my pregnancy and the "fourth trimester". As the barman who once tried to refuse serving me a white wine spritzer found out... I'm sure he loved hearing a run-through of the evidence, poor man

However OP didn't ask for our views on her choice not to drink so it's really beside the point.

My point is rather than I don't think it was uncaring for OP's family to include the Prosecco. Probably just hadn't clocked that the no-drinking was strict and was apply after birth... which I think it fairly unusual.

*bought

Defo would if you were one of my mates