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To be angry with DH and his greediness

238 replies

headache · 27/12/2023 23:17

Every year this happens, DH loves food, DH eats lots and lots of food. He eats a huge Christmas dinner then keeps going to the fridge and eating the leftovers. Yesterday we had a buffet, he ate loads yesterday too, today he ate buffet leftovers and cooked up all the leftovers I hadn’t cooked. He’s now farting like mad and complaining he had a sore stomach. Next he’ll be complaining he’s put on weight and we will have the saga of him losing it again.

To be fair he is built like an athlete, runs and gyms most days so he can eat loads. But he has zero willpower over food, he eats really fast, so gulps down air then farts loads. He gets greedy so if they’re a tub of Pringles he wants to eat them all. I told him to go take some Deflatine and he says he can’t be bothered so I’m kind of glad he had a sore stomach.

I’ve also just started my period so I’m going to have cramps tomorrow so I am angry for no reason and if he farts on the night and annoys me I’m going to kick him to sleep on the sofas because right now I hate him.

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Gardeningtime · 28/12/2023 13:24

Op. How’s your weight and fitness. Is any part of this envy that he is fit and a healthy weight and eats like this at times?

Sebsaloysius · 28/12/2023 13:24

toomanyleggings · 28/12/2023 11:28

Bottom line is you’ve gone off him. This stuff would barely register if you liked him. Most people over eat this time of year.

Good point!

RosesSmellLikePoo · 28/12/2023 13:26

anyone remember a few years back someone posted something about AIBU to sit smiling at my teenage son as he polishes off 12 weetabix?

Bet he grew up to be a greedy fucker too

Deathraystare · 28/12/2023 13:29

How about wrapping any leftovers in cling film/saran wrap many times - wasteful I know but it might put him off!

Yalta · 28/12/2023 13:31

I would think it isn’t necessarily about how much he eats although finishing up everything in the fridge is annoying especially if you are expecting it to last a few days but more the running monologue of farting and complaining his stomach is hurting, he has put on weight and then the subsequent diet and losing the weight that would piss me off

Stop eating so much and you won’t fart or have a sore stomach and you won’t put on weight or have to spend time losing it.

roarrfeckingroar · 28/12/2023 13:32

Greed is so unattractive. No one wants to shag a glutton

LoopyLooooo · 28/12/2023 13:32

RosesSmellLikePoo · 28/12/2023 13:26

anyone remember a few years back someone posted something about AIBU to sit smiling at my teenage son as he polishes off 12 weetabix?

Bet he grew up to be a greedy fucker too

I'm reminded of the MNetter who said she ate 48 Cadbury's creme eggs and received an abundance of 'You go girl' type replies! 😳🤣

So weird.

Mojolostforever · 28/12/2023 13:36

RosesSmellLikePoo · 28/12/2023 10:10

Oh I’ve got no patience with greedy fuckers, it makes me irrationally angry.

ignore any whinging about stomach ache other than to tell him eating like a pig tends to result in that!! To be honest, I’d probably leave him as greediness really is a deal breaker for me.

Mumsnet is unbelievable at times.

"You left your husband, then? Why was that?"
"He ate too much at Christmas."

Gardeningtime · 28/12/2023 13:37

LoopyLooooo · 28/12/2023 13:32

I'm reminded of the MNetter who said she ate 48 Cadbury's creme eggs and received an abundance of 'You go girl' type replies! 😳🤣

So weird.

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Mine is the woman who said she bought a box of donuts and ate tnem in one sitting and people were whooping her on saying how it was a single portion, no one said no one wants to shag a glutton.

CatMadam · 28/12/2023 13:37

CurlewKate · 28/12/2023 10:59

He can eat what he wants. What he can't do is fart in front of you. He can go to the bathroom like a civilised human being.

Do people really go to the bathroom just to fart? This thread is reminding me of when I was a teenager and held in all my farts around my boyfriend to the point that I got a huge stomachache. Bugger that!

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 28/12/2023 13:39

willWillSmithsmith · 28/12/2023 13:20

What do you mean by “foodies”? Foodies and greed are two different things.

It does sound pretty gross but only if it’s a regular thing and not just the usual Christmas over-indulgence.

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I think it's like the confusion over 'gourmand' and 'gourmet'.

BethDuttonsTwin · 28/12/2023 13:40

The interesting thing about this thread is that so many of those posting seem to have no idea just how controlling they themselves sound…

CurlewKate · 28/12/2023 13:41

"Do people really go to the bathroom just to fart?"

If you wouldn't fart at a wedding or in the office why would you fart in front of your family?

mangochops · 28/12/2023 13:45

This would give me the ick completely. I love my food and enjoy it like everyone else but gorging/stuffing yourself until you have massive amounts of wind, farting and indigestion is completely unattractive- YUCK. That is utterly gross.

MadAboutThat · 28/12/2023 13:48

Mojolostforever · 28/12/2023 13:36

Mumsnet is unbelievable at times.

"You left your husband, then? Why was that?"
"He ate too much at Christmas."

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Honestly!

"Children, it's time I told you the truth about why I left your father. He farted in front of me at Christmas."

🙄🙄

Whatwouldscullydo · 28/12/2023 13:48

So thoughtless.

The left overs are surely for everyone to share , have a few sandwiches for lunches and provide who ever is in charge of cooking the next time enough for a soup/curry/pie or whatever.

Anyone who makes it a mission to practically make themselves sick eating everything in sight and ensuring that there's not enough left to cover the rest if the meal plans is just being selfish and disgusting. Whatever sex they are.

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 28/12/2023 13:49

So he's built like an athlete, is gym fit and works out every day but he's not allowed to extra food at Christmas? Surely overindulgence at this time of year is what Christmas is for? And presumably he contributes at least 50% of household income so has actually bought his share of this food. I find it a bit hard to get excited about to be honest

PS haven't heard of Deflatine since the 90s, didn't even know they sold it any more. It was to prevent bloating if I remember correctly? Maybe he just doesn't care if he's bloated once a year

rwalker · 28/12/2023 13:50

Gardeningtime · 28/12/2023 13:22

Such inherent sexism . Men cook and shop too. Why is the op In charge of the fridge. By way of having a vagina so she is assumed to be in charge of the food?

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Don’t know how saying can you leave that I’m having it for my tea tomorrow

is sexist

laceydoily · 28/12/2023 13:50

roarrfeckingroar · 28/12/2023 13:32

Greed is so unattractive. No one wants to shag a glutton

Yeah, this. Anything taken to extremes can be unattractive. Why not just eat sensibly until you are full and then stop. Stuffing yourself like the Cookie Monster and then moaning about feeling ill and farting all over the house is such a turn off. It makes me feel ill- a bit like those horrible eating contests when people are forcing mountains of food down their throats then burping, sweating and grimacing in discomfort- its vile.

Theredfoxfliesatmidnight · 28/12/2023 13:54

Also, a muscular man who exercises daily is going to have a far higher calorie need than an inactive female or a child. Yes he should be considerate and share the food, but expecting him to eat like an elderly woman over Christmas when he has chosen to have a few days of indulgence is unreasonable.

mangochops · 28/12/2023 13:56

Yes he should be considerate and share the food, but expecting him to eat like an elderly woman over Christmas when he has chosen to have a few days of indulgence is unreasonable

Huge middle ground between eating like a sparrow and eating so much it makes you ill! Especially if you're then moaning to everyone who will listen about having stomach pains and flatulance. Good grief.

JMTWords · 28/12/2023 13:57

laceydoily · 28/12/2023 13:50

Yeah, this. Anything taken to extremes can be unattractive. Why not just eat sensibly until you are full and then stop. Stuffing yourself like the Cookie Monster and then moaning about feeling ill and farting all over the house is such a turn off. It makes me feel ill- a bit like those horrible eating contests when people are forcing mountains of food down their throats then burping, sweating and grimacing in discomfort- its vile.

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Hey, leave Cookie Monster out of this! He’s acknowledged that cookies are a “sometimes” food, he doesn’t deserve to be libelled like this!

laceydoily · 28/12/2023 13:58

Hey, leave Cookie Monster out of this! He’s acknowledged that cookies are a “sometimes” food, he doesn’t deserve to be libelled like this!

Sorry you are right, I retract that statement. I love him too 😄

VictoriasSponges · 28/12/2023 13:59

This may seem like an obvious thing BUT would you never ask/ tell him not to eat leftovers?

If they are for the next day, I always ban anyone from tucking in and say leftovers are for tomorrow.

CatMadam · 28/12/2023 14:00

CurlewKate · 28/12/2023 13:41

"Do people really go to the bathroom just to fart?"

If you wouldn't fart at a wedding or in the office why would you fart in front of your family?

My home is where I’m comfortable and with people I know pretty well, them being my family and all. I do a lot of things in front of my family that I wouldn’t do at a wedding or in the office, lol.