Unwanted male attention at work

[Poiou45]

I would appreciate some advice on how to deal with this - now in my 40s!

Unfortunately, I have always had a lot of attention from men, which made me suspicious of many of them. Now in my 40s, I still look young (I was ID-Ed today for buying wine…). The issue is that I am now more senior at work, and many sector heads (all male - same ranking) are coming to my desk a lot to chat. Over the years, they have started to give me preferential treatment, and now others are noticing and making comments. I am good at my job and a good team player, but others are commenting I am getting better treatment due to my good looks. This is insulting, I find, but equally and given my past experiences with many men, I am now doubting a little if their treatment of me is only because of my work.

Any suggestions? Or shall I wait a few years - when I am old to see?!

you're an adult woman with a responsible job. Can't you work it out for yourself?

I got IDd for buying wine in Tesco not long ago. I am a wizened old dear with grey hair. It's not personal.

No @Disturbia81 I gave a personal perspective, which is very different from taking it personally.

An anti ageist sgenda is a fine ts a fine thing. @BIWI posts on a variety of topics and I usually appreciate her contributions, as here.

I was a bit taken by a remark in the OP to the effect that the problem might disappear in a few years of its own accord, because the OP would then be old. I was placing her in her early 50s st the point and thought WTH? I asked her about this in my post but she has not addressed it.

At 60 years old I can assure you I'm not