To buy my lovely single cousin a trip to meet other christian singles?

[DragonMama3]

Would you be offended if you were my cousin?

She's lovely. I think she might meet someone nice.

Has she said anything at all about it being something she wants? Or are you just making a decision for her?

unless she has explicitly asked for it then yabu

Ask her first. You can't just decide she's doing it for her.

She still misses her X-fiance. I'd just like her to be happy.

I'm single and if someone bought me something like that it'd damn near ruin my Christmas.

You need to be REALLY sure it's something she actively wants.

Don’t do this

If she's Christian, single and looking for someone, I don't see why not.

Is she even religious?

I was going to buy it and say please just try it. At the very least you might meet some nice new people/friends.

You need to be sure she wants to meet someone!! Loads of single people are happier single and it's actually infuriating when people can't understand that.

She still misses her X. It was 15 years ago. She's worth so much more.

Yes, by her own description and regularly attends church.

I’d ask her first before buying it.

Genuinely - why? Because it's embarrassing. I see it more as a real opportunity for 2 people to have a happy life

Everyone is asking the same thing op and you're not answering.

Does she WANT to be in a relationship?

YABU this is not a gift you can just go and outright buy. It might really hurt her feelings. Perhaps instead start a conversation about dating and see if you could work in the existence of these singles trips to get a sense of what she thinks. If she seems amenable, you can encourage her and offer to pay for it. I wouldn’t even ask outright.

Definitely ask first.

You could cause massive offence

Absolutely not. It's for her to make the decision. She may prefer being single. Why assume she wants to be coupled up?

Sorry, but I would be underwhelmed if you gifted me a singles weekend. My DSis once suggested I try online dating and couldn't understand when I said no. I am not looking for anyone, there's someone I care about (and I have referred to him as DP on here, but I don't think he considers himself that). The thought of a serious relationship doesn't appeal.

You don't know what your DC's situation is. She may not want a relationship, she may not want a straight relationship. She may be seeing someone already. Unless you know this is what she wants, I wouldn't, no.

I'd not want to hurt her

It's a bit more Christian that that. It's something I considered myself when younger. It's held in lovely venues with walks, prayers, etc. I know that would appeal to her.

Missing someone specific doesn’t mean she wants a replacement though..?

She wants kids. So as a Christian, we believe they come with a marriage.

She may be quite content to be single - it's really not the end of the world, you know!
I would find such an offer intrusive, offensive and patronising - wouldn't you, OP?
If she is an observant Christian, she will already be meeting people at church, so she already has social interaction and the opportunity to make new friends..... IF that is what she wants.

If I could clone him I would. I was so happy when they got engaged.

Yes she misses her Ex as you keep saying but is she actually seeking a partner?

Churches and Christian events generally tend to be full of women.