To buy my lovely single cousin a trip to meet other christian singles?

[DragonMama3]

Would you be offended if you were my cousin?

She's lovely. I think she might meet someone nice.

I'm happy to take her for aftenoon tea

You don't have to ask her explicitly. Just something along the lines of, "I saw this and was wondering what you thought about it? If I was single I would."
Just buying is unreasonable and potentially putting her in a really horrible position.

Tbh, usually the most common place for single Christians to meet a partner is within their own fellowship (I did).

Do not do it then.

You may mean well, OP, but it's a bad idea.

If she misses her ex fiance then she's not ready - bloody hell. Leave her alone.

No. If you have to ask then no.

If she wanted that she’d sort it out.

Leave her be, she isn’t your project

It is not a good idea, as everyone on this thread has collectively agreed, but you don't seem to want to hear that.

So yes, go ahead - book it today.

Afternoon tea is a good present.

A surprise singles holiday isn’t.

Is it footloose? If so, definitely no! The people who go on the footloose holidays are all either single for a VERY good reason or have no actual desire to meet potential partners, they just go for the company

Do you know that she wants a relationship??

I'm single and if someone did this for me I'd be FUMING, I don't want a partner.

Something's off here...

I know two people who met their husbands this way. I'd say it's a lovely idea but not lovely if the person doesn't feel ready or want it. I think a nice conversation and asking her without simply presenting it as a done/paid for thing. She may be receptive but it also may take her time to want to do this.

I'd also suggest she joins other Churches for events for singles or people in their 30's/40's (depending on her age). She can stay in her home Church but if it is full of elderly she needs to expand her horizons and join other things.

It does sound like you've decided to do it OP and whatever Mumsnet says you won't change your mind.

No. What a horrible, insulting and pitying gift. Can’t think of anything worse. Except maybe a weight watchers membership. If you give her a singles trip as a present she’ll be on the other thread later on about who had the worst Christmas present

She's Muslim

What happened? A broken-up engagement or a fiancé passing away will still be very raw especially in a cultural that expects marriage!

Could you do something that's nit specifically ' singles holiday' a retreat or something and go with her?

As she’s Christian she’s probably aware these weekends exist. If she’s never booked one for herself or even expressed an interest in them it would be safe to say she doesn’t want to go on one

If a family member got me this I'd be mortified, glad I'm happily married.

Rather than a trip specifically for singles to meet, what about a holiday by a Christian travel company where there are couples, singles and sometimes families but most of the people on the trip are Christian. Such as Oakhall Holidays, or Mastersun ( if they still exist) I went on an Oak hall holiday every year from teenage and made friends that I am still in contact with. Lots of people met partners too but it was not main reason to go.

😂

Fairly sure if someone got me something like this for Christmas or birthday I would make them go on it instead of me - yes, even if they were already coupled up.

Don't patronise her, she is more than capable of making her own choices around coupledom and children when she is ready. And not everyone wants the same out of life!

Her Church is quite mature.

Very expensive area of England hence the older Church

I'm married.