Should my DH have a say in my hair cut?

[Diddlyumptious]

Came home from hairdresser to DH saying he didn't like it and I should have discussed with him first. Can't decide if he's being unreasonable or not. TIA
I am being unreasonable - people do ask DH for input
I am not being unreasonable - DH in the wrong

YANBU - Nope, he doesn't get a say in it.

He doesn't have to like it, mind you. But he doesn't get a say in whether you have it cut or not.

Well I wouldn’t be happy if DH got a haircut I didn’t like 🤷‍♀️ So yeah, I think husbands and wives should have a say.

Is he normally controlling? Does he ask you before he gets his haircut or puts on an outfit?

I see this as a red flag tbh, I’d be watching his behaviour based on this.

Do you get to dictate his hair cut?

YANBU.
I do what I want with my body, hair included.

YANBU. Nobody other than me gets a say in what I do with my own body.

He always asks about his beard but he cuts his own hair since Covid, it's very short 🤣

How drastic a change is it?

Not at all simply a trim!

He's pissed you got a trim and didn't discuss it with him??

How often do you get a trim at the hairdressers and what has his reaction been in the past?

New hairdresser so just a trim, want to change the colour next appointment but worried over the reaction I'll get now, unless I discuss first 🤔

My ex used to comment a lot if the styles i chose in clothes glasses and hair weren't entirely feminine. I still see him fairly often and enjoy being me without comment from him!

He sounds like tool, I suspect you look good and he feels threatened.

I’m having mine all chopped off later today, sod what my husband says, I’m always changing my colour & style, he doesn’t even bat an eyelid now!

If you’d got a buzz cut and dyed it green I could see his point but otherwise he is being unreasonable!! Your hair - your decision.

I like my DH to have scruffy facial hair but he doesn’t like it so I get a couple of days out of it and then he shaves it off. His hair, his decision .

He's being unreasonable.
I discuss it, but only as chat - this is what I'm getting, he doesn't get a say.

Tbh if I didn't say I was going he probably wouldn't notice anyway.

Your hair. Your choice. I’m amazed that he thinks he’s entitled to question you.

@Diddlyumptious I think your DH should just naff off!!! bloody cheek he has! does he ask you how you want his hair or beard to be before he does it all himself?? I think not.

I wouldn't be asking DH for input. It's my body not his.
Recently I had my very long hair cut to a short bob. Didn't mention I was doing it.
I know DH doesn't like short hair on women and would have issues with me getting a short cut.
I think short hair looks beautiful on women.
I don't suit short hair (tried it very short and it didn't look good, was hard to style) and like it a bit longer but if I did want it very very short, I would be serving my own interests above all and he'd have to lump it.

So glad I’m single and don’t have to deal with this nonsense.

what is really going on? Is the new hair dresser someone he dated in the past and he is worried you’ll find out? Just feels like such an odd overreaction 🤷

Bloody hell no he doesn't.

I’m divorced now but don’t ever remember consulting my ex on anything I chose to do with my hair. It was absolutely nothing to do with him.

No, he shouldn’t. But we need to be realistic and not expect our men to still be physically attracted to us if we do something they really don’t like. I was so annoyed when DP went clean shaven, ofc it’s up to him but I’m not attracted to him like it and long term I want to be with someone I’m physically and sexually attracted to.

Go you, and DH 😄

No one he knows. My feeling was it's an over reaction too.