Should my DH have a say in my hair cut?

[Diddlyumptious]

Came home from hairdresser to DH saying he didn't like it and I should have discussed with him first. Can't decide if he's being unreasonable or not. TIA
I am being unreasonable - people do ask DH for input
I am not being unreasonable - DH in the wrong

@Diddlyumptious its none of his bloody business. Damn cheek.

I like my wife’s haircut at the moment, she doesn’t like mine. We each do what we want with our hair and don’t ask each other!

She hates leopard print, makeup, nail extensions or high heels. I don’t like hockey jerseys, beany hats or stupid trainers- our house is full of all of those things because we each wear what WE like.

What is he saying is the issue if its only a trim?

He’s being unreasonable, of course, it’s your hair.

Having said that, he’s allowed to have an opinion as to whether he likes something or not. I dislike my DH’s beard and have told him this- he likes it, however, and keeps the horrible thing. 😂

In fact, our entire family dislikes his beard, the kids have also suggested that he shaves it off, but it stays put.

Wtf no

If she wants to buzz it and dye it green it’s still not his place to say she can’t. It’s her hair!

No and to say you should have is massively controlling. My ex used to periodically shave all his hair off, I absolutely hated it, it made him look like a football hooligan or a neo-Nazi, but I wouldn’t have ever said that to him because it’s not my head, so it’s not my choice.

Okay that sounds controlling.

I once went full ginger from natural brown. When I got home my DP said it’s gorgeous! (Regardless of what he actually thought). It’s only hair 😅 maybe if you’d shaved it all off without mentioning it maybe but a trim?!

He can comment but certainly not reasonable expecting to discuss it first.

Of course, but you could understand him wishing she hadn’t done it 😂

No.

I love DH beard, he asked what I preferred as he'd suggested shaving it off - better looking with - he chose to keep it.
Guess he thinks as he asks me I should ask him. If however he'd shaved it off I'd just accept it. My view is he can do what he likes, wear what he likes, he's his own person.

Beard he does, but his choice. Down to him what he does.

Of course he doesn't get a say. Is he controlling in other ways?

Your body, your choice. It's that simple.

I don’t understand how he can not like a trim, it would surely bring it back to exactly how it was eight weeks ago or whatever. I don’t discuss my hair plans with my husband but then I stick with more or less the same thing. I would probably mention if I were thinking about a pixie cut or dying pink or something, just to get another opinion.

very strange reaction if it was only a trim! And even if it wasn’t he doesn’t get a say surely?! I’ve never even thought to ask my husband his thoughts on how I should cut or colour my hair and he’s never offered them 😂

Fuck no!!! Do you get a say in his???

controlling behaviour!

Not a chance, it’s your hair and your decision, same as his hair is his decision!

None of his business, tell him to STFU.

My Ex DH didn't want me to cut my long hair short. Always said my new short haircut was horrible and didn't suit me no matter what style it was. I was forever growing it long as I felt unattractive then cut it short in a different style but he hated them all.

Older, wiser short-haired me now realises it was just his personal preference and there was nothing wrong with any of my shorter styles.

I had an ex like this. He liked my hair long and natural so I chopped it into a Bob and dyed it bright red.

He had many issues.

no its not his business especially a trim

is he like this about anything else you do

I probably would discuss a drastic change and listen to his opinion but otherwise it’s my decision and I’d make it myself.

I’d expect him to have an opinion if I shaved it or if it was dyed green but a cut? Nah.

A trim?! He’s being very controlling.

He gets a say only if you invite his opinion.

The YouTube hairdresser has a video on nen wanting to drcide thfir partner's hair. Watch it thdn send it to him. Mr Hilcox says a husband's opinion is only that: an opinion. The wife decides.

We had a period of time when my hair was coloured much darker, with auburn lights. DH didn’t like it dark at all and said so, but I kept it until I wanted to change it. He grew a beard, which I loathed and there was a stand off.

In the end, I went back to blond and he shaved the beard., but neither of us would have done what the other wanted, nor would we have discussed it with one another. He got fed up of the beard and I got fed up of the colour.

On drastic things I'd ask DH's opinion but he doesn't get the final say. Same in reverse.

But then a lot of posters on here think they get to dictate their husband's shaving habits, if they have a beard, how long the bear can be, how their husband has his hair and so on, so I'd hope in the name of consistency they also accept their husbands get to have the final say and veto any of their beauty and grooming decisions.