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For thinking that it makes no sense to dress well to be at home?

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Carrotcake93 · 20/12/2023 15:14

First of all, sorry for the mistakes, English is not my first language.I been inspired by a previous thread

I have a 6 month old baby and since my last weeks of pregnancy I spend the day and night in my pajamas. On such occasions, when I go with dp or friends to a special place I like wearing makeup and show off a good outfit, but as soon as I get home I put on my pajamas again 🤣
In my daily routines going outside with dc I simply wear sports clothes, but that's the only thing I can tolerate to wear at home.

A friend told me that this can affect your mood, is that true?

How do you all do it to look good at home and feel comfortable?

Can't see myself being ready before dp comes back work 🤣 He doesn't seem to care if I wear makeup or not, although he really appreciate a good outfit. I've a good variety of pajamas that are pretty but not that sexy, It's cold!

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mrsclaus1984 · 20/12/2023 15:16

Well I feel I’m in no position to comment / judge either way because I’ve just finished a day of housework and have taken my bra off and it’s the best feeling ever…! And no intention of putting it back on until tomorrow 😄

Caffeineneedednow · 20/12/2023 15:18

I'm definetly in the pyjama camp 🤣

betterangels · 20/12/2023 15:20

It does impact my mood, yes. I sometimes still do it. In your current situation, I totally understand that you are.

Thesearmsofmine · 20/12/2023 15:20

I don’t like the feeling of being in pyjamas all day, I find I feel low and am less productive.

I do have some things I only wear at home though, comfy stuff that are still clothes so I still feel like I’m dressed.

DappledThings · 20/12/2023 15:20

There's a big range between "makeup and ..... a good outfit" and just pyjamas.

I get dressed every day and stay dressed but I don't wear make-up or anything dressed up.

IWishThatICouldBeWorryFree · 20/12/2023 15:22

I would always wear clothes, even if they were more scruffy, casual clothes for hanging around the house in. I would feel pretty low if I wasn’t dressed in actual clothes all day.

HardcoreLadyType · 20/12/2023 15:23

If you are washing yourself and brushing your hair and putting on clean clothes everyday (in your case, clean pyjamas) then this is fine and no one else’s business.

If you don’t have time to do those things, speak to your partner, because they need to help you to make sure you can.

ReTrainTheBrain · 20/12/2023 15:23

I wear clothes in the day that I don't mind answering the door in to a surprise guest or having to quickly nip down to the shops because I suddenly need something.

NameChangeAgain23 · 20/12/2023 15:24

I tend to wear lounge wear... aka day time pjs

WhenWereYouUnderMe · 20/12/2023 15:25

I always get up, shower, hair, full make up, and proper clothes. It just makes me feel ready and in control I guess?

If I was in jammies or whatever I think my mood would dip.

Parker231 · 20/12/2023 15:26

WhenWereYouUnderMe · 20/12/2023 15:25

I always get up, shower, hair, full make up, and proper clothes. It just makes me feel ready and in control I guess?

If I was in jammies or whatever I think my mood would dip.

Always shower, pj’s are fine. Never wear make up when I’m at home for the day.

StripyHorse · 20/12/2023 15:27

Personally, I feel better if I change out of pyjamas. That said, I will happily change out of pyjamas into leggings and a sweatshirt - which are just as comfortable. It's the actual getting changed that makes me feel better.

I am also perfectly happy to change into pyjamas early in the evening if I know I don't have to go out again.

I don't wear make up if I am staying in. When I was working from home I had my emergency 'Teams' makeup ( lip gloss, powder and blush) near my desk to quickly put on if we had a meeting, but even that was the minimum to stop me looking like a ghost.

If you are happy staying in pyjamas then there isn't an issue.

CruCru · 20/12/2023 15:27

ReTrainTheBrain · 20/12/2023 15:23

I wear clothes in the day that I don't mind answering the door in to a surprise guest or having to quickly nip down to the shops because I suddenly need something.

Yes, I do too. If there was a fire alarm and I had to go outside, what I wear should not be embarrassing.

MajesticWhine · 20/12/2023 15:32

I get dressed, sometimes just trackies and a jumper but I wouldn't stay in PJs all day.
I think it's possible that it could affect mood for some people. It could be hard to get a sense of achievement in your day if you haven't even got dressed.

Original poster
Carrotcake93 · 20/12/2023 15:36

I maintain good hygiene in every way. My hair also always looks clean and shiny . And I follow a good skin care routine. I think it's enough to make me feel like a decent human being 🤣

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Strawberrycheesecake7 · 20/12/2023 15:42

I have a 6 month old baby as well and I know what you mean. I’ve only got dressed up properly a few times in the last year, whereas before I was pregnant I used to often. I do get dressed but only because I have to go out and take the dog for a walk, but only in leggings and a t shirt, jumper etc. If I was staying at home all day I probably would just stay in my pyjamas. I do get dressed up occasionally when going out to eat or something, and I would say it improves my mood a bit. But with a young baby it’s so hard to find the time to do the simplest things. I simply do not have the time to be getting dressed up everyday, nor do I see the point. I would have to be giving my son less attention every day to try and improve my appearance only for nobody but my husband to see me. And he doesn’t care what I wear at this point.

FairytaleOfKent · 20/12/2023 15:42

If you're happy as you are and feel well in yourself then why change?

I commented on the other thread. Wearing PJs all day would make me feel down. Getting dressed and putting make-up on helps set me up for the day and gives me 10-15 minutes of 'me time' before I spend the day caring for my 10 week old and 3 year old.

We also go out to various activities every day, so I like to feel presentable. It makes me feel like I've got my shit together, which is important to me when things get chaotic!

Singleandproud · 20/12/2023 15:43

There's a middle ground of being in PJs all day and being fully made up for a night out.

Showered, fresh clothes appropriate to the weather and activity, at least jeans or similar trousers when mooching at home, hair washed and dried and a bit of moisturiser is my general level of being at home if not ill.

I might wear lounge trousers in the evening if not heading out again but wouldn't wear them outside the house. My nan was similar, would wear trousers indoors but would always change into a skirt before going outside so I guess it's the more relaxed version of that, she wouldn't have been seen dead in jeans but she would be 100+ if still alive so think that was a generational thing.

I spent a couple of days when working from home where I trialled the lazier version, not washing and drying my hair everyday, shower the night before instead of in the morning etc but it did effect my mood.

banjocat · 20/12/2023 15:45

Personally I need to get dressed every day or I do start to feel a bit miserable and down. But that's just me. I know some people have pyjama days and love it.

If you feel it's not impacting your mental health then it doesn't really matter what other people say.

And when I say I get dressed I generally mean a pair of jeans and a casual top, nothing fancy. I only dress up and wear make up if I'm going out.

MaidOfSteel · 20/12/2023 15:47

Well, my mood certainly doesn't dip! I'm disabled with mobility problems and spend most of my time at home in comfy PJs or loungewear. I have some lovely stuff. I don't see the point in being dressed around the house; it's just making extra laundry. I'm clean and I love looking after my skin & hair.
When I am up to going out, though, I like to put on nice clothes, accessories and a bit of make up.
You do what suits you, OP.

Pickingmyselfup · 20/12/2023 15:47

I've just got in from work and swapped my work clothes for tracksuit bottoms, a fluffy jumper and slippers. It's freezing so I'm sitting in bed for 5 minutes to warm up before I tackle the house jobs.

I wouldn't wear pyjamas unless they were fleecy and thick, all of the ones I usually buy are quite thin which I can't imagine is warm enough to lounge in without a blanket.

Caspianberg · 20/12/2023 15:47

I have to get dressed every day. Don’t you go out?
By the time I get up and showered, it seems pointless putting clean pjs on when I could just get dressed.
With a 6 month old I still went out every day, usually a few times as I could walk with him to sling to nap or pram, then carry on walk, pop to shops, etc. Also video calls often with work.

Singleandproud · 20/12/2023 15:47

When DD was young I found a dress, leggings/tights and boots made me feel put together and was easy to move in chasing a baby/toddler

WhichEllie · 20/12/2023 15:48

I solved this problem by treating myself to some cashmere loungewear. It lets me look chic while still being comfortable and warm. Grin

Edit: I should add that I don’t have a baby though!

Superscientist · 20/12/2023 15:52

I had severe pnd and did my best to get dressed every day. I enjoyed picking out a vest and dungarees/trouser outfit for my daughter and jeans and a t shirt for myself. Not dissimilar to the leggings and t shirt I wore to bed but it helped to bring shape to the day.

When I was in the mother and baby unit we were encouraged to get dressed every day for the benefits for your wellbeing. It doesn't have to be anything fancy but day leggings and t shirt and night leggings and PJ's does help imo