To not let my 13 DS sleep over at his girlfriend's house?

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Help me out! I think I'm losing the plot!
My DS13 wants to sleep over at his girlfriend of about 5 weeks (not sure that matters) house!
Apparently her parents are fine with it, and she has had boys sleep over before!
I've said no.... he is kicking off, I don't think IABU..... I have suggested collecting him late if they want to watch a movie etc.
For info, I have only met the girlfriend's dad once briefly when I collected her for a disco, and have only met the girl for the duration of that car journey!

It’s a big no from me too.

definitely sets the wrong precedent and if you allow this they will infer that you’re ok with them sleeping together. No chance.

Yabvu indulging 13 year olds talking about "girlfriends". Ridiculous over sexualising of young teenagers.

Absolutely not at 13 and I consider myself a fairly liberal parent. No way

Maybe you need to have an adult conversation with your son, ask him what plans has he got whilst staying at his girlfriend’s house, talk to him about sex ect,ect and then speak to her parents about if they’re going to be home to supervise the children and sleeping arrangements.
Everyone is jumping to the conclusion that this couple are going to be having sex, when infact it’s all perfectly innocent and the thought hasn’t even crossed their mind

I'm not planning on saying yes!! Was reinforcing with my own mind, that I am not out of touch, as it was an immediate now when he asked!
Apparently she is annoyed with him, I've told him that just means that neither of them are really mature enough!

Re the comment about calling her his girlfriend, not sure what else I would call her, she's a girl and his friend, he refers to her as his girlfriend? He has bought her a selection box she likes for Christmas!

Unrelated, but she is his only real friend at the moment due to some horrendous bullying that has gone.

I understand why he wants to please her etc.
I've told him that I wouldn't be comfortable with him staying over a boys house with parents we didn't know either at his age!

I'm sure we'll laugh about it in years to come!

@Bertiesmum3 i mean I can see where you’re coming from and maybe it’s unfair of us to automatically think sex. Buttttt the girl has had previous boyfriends who have spent the night apparently soooo that’s why I’m thinking there’s an agenda here.

We have had discussions about this, he has said nothing like that would happen.
But to me it's not even all about what might happen, it's him being a situation like that and who knows what could be said. He's 13, she almost 13.
I'm just comfortable with it at all. I've said they can find other ways to spend time together etc

Absolutely not. Stick to your guns op. What sort of parents would be encouraging that?

No way

Wow 13 year old no way..Huh let kids be kids bf and gf I do wonder

By kicking off, I mean, moaning, we are ruining his life etc, typical teenage stuff, as yes he is 13. He's not smashing up the house or cursing at me.

13? Absolutely no way!!

If they were both 16 it would be different. 13 absolutely not no way.

13 bloody hell definitely no

Those girls parents are insane

Nope, not a chance.

Regardless of what they do, it's not responsible to put either of them in that situation. She's 12 for God's sake.

WTF?

Why do you even need to ask if YABU?!

Is this a reverse and you're the hopeful 13yo lad?

😂

Nope, no way, not a chance. Dd2 is nearly 16 and canvassing for her boyfriend of 18 months to stay over after Christmas. Im sticking with my original not until after GCSEs rule. She thinks I’m being I reasonable, but tough. At 13, absolutely not!

Assuming her parents have agreed to this and the many others before your son, what does that say about them exactly?!

Apparently she is annoyed with him

Yikes, even more reason to say absolutely not!

No way, he can dream on. Teenage sleepovers, nope.

Do remember to remind him of this incident in 30 years when he may possibly have his own teens 🤣🤣

Oh course it's ok, I mean what could possibly go wrong with that ............... 😧!

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Absofucking not. Nope. No way.

Hell no

Agree. Unless this girl's parents are utterly insane there's a cast iron plan in place to stop them shagging.

I'd talk to the parents and see what they have in mind before rejecting the idea. If they say "We're going to leave them unsupervised because we're charitably pimping our daughter out to your son." then it's a no.

It might say they have a separate Granny Flat with very good locks.