When one half of a couple is pregnant, should the other partner not be 'allowed' to drink?

[fishonabicycle]

A woman I know is pregnant and has announced that her partner won't be drinking as she can't.

I'm interested to know what the consensus is on this!

AIBU - she is reasonable.
AINBU - she is not reasonable

I voted YANBU but I think it all depends on the kind of pregnancy and the other support the woman has in her life, and also the level of drinking.

When I was about 20 weeks pregnant with my first my DH went on a stag do which involved a fair amount of drinking, I went to stay with my mum for a few days, all totally fine and I was happy for him to have some fun before the baby arrived. Had he suggested a boozy night out when I was 38 weeks, or got tipsy and left me to look after older children if I was struggling with tiredness or sickness etc, then that would have been different.

My DH did drink while I was pregnant until I was 8 months. He didn't ever drink much though as he was worried he might have to take me to hospital.
If this women's partner wants to abstain that's fine. If it's her decision, not fine.

I’d expect someone with a pregnant partner to act responsibly. This means not getting shitfaced or staying out all night. A couple of glasses of wine is absolutely fine.

She announced the partner "won't be drinking" and you immediately jumped to conclusion that he is "not allowed". It's not at all clear from her announcement whether this was his or her decision.

We agreed my DH wouldn’t but only in the last month in case I went into labour and needed to get to the hospital. Otherwise this seems silly - there is no need otherwise, and I could handle being around drinking people during my pregnancy without succumbing - it seems a controlling move!

If you are jealous of somebody drinking when you can’t then you have some serious alcohol dependency issues

Up to them I guess. Announcing it though…

Based on this logic I also have rare steak and brie addictions 😂

It never would have even occurred to me to tell my partner he wasn't allowed to drink when I was pregnant.

Thank you all - I think (from his expression) the male partner isn't that delighted about it!

I personally don’t care about drinking and wouldn’t bother me if my DH had a drink or two. However, if he was drinking to the point of getting drunk and especially if it was regular, I won’t be happy as if there’s an emergency I can’t count on him. In general I wouldn’t be with someone who drinks a lot so that’s more of a personal boundary, pregnant or not.

Came to say this. I'm pregnant now and DH has cut back and won't have more than one when I'm with him, but he's been out a couple of times in the run up to Christmas and had a few, wouldn't occur to me to object!

If he started tucking into pâté on toast day in day out while I can't have any though we'd have a problem

That changes it to controlling/manipulative then. Unless she has a AUD and this truly is the level of support she needs.

Controlling.