I’m new to this, so please bear with. I may not understand some of the abbreviations so appreciate your patience.
I have a 6 month old son, who is my MIL’s first grandchild. As was expected she absolutely dotes on him and it’s lovely to see their bond growing.
The trouble is, she’s fine to get on with in small doses but if I’m around her too much she starts to really grate on me and can be quite over bearing and opinionated. I’m not a confrontational person so usually I’ll just laugh things off, or disagree in a polite way and that’s usually the end of it.
She’s starting saying things such as “X won’t be playing football ever, no, it’s too dangerous, he’s not going to be playing football.”
this is because my hubby has had quite a nasty football related injury in the past, which is why she deems it as dangerous.
“X is going to have whatever he wants, I’m not going to tell him no.”
this was during a discussion where she said she finds it cruel when parents in the supermarkets don’t allow their kids to have something they want off the shelf.
talking directly to the baby - “yes and when you’re a bit older we’ll have a sleepover and we’ll stay up all night long.”
Am I being over the top for the fact this is really annoying me? I want her to be involved in his life as much as she can but at the same time I want her to understand she’s not his parent so she doesn’t get to decide what sports he does or doesn’t play, what he’s allowed to have from the shop (within reason, I do understand that grandparents want to spoil their grandchild to a certain extent, but she surely can’t let him have EVERYTHING he wants?!) and the staying up all night thing pissed me off as he’s in a really good sleeping routine and I don’t want other people to ruin it with bad habits and causing him to then want to stay up all night at home, or have sweets all the time etc etc.
I’m really not sure if I’m just being over sensitive and I know I have to let go of control a bit, but this to me is a bit much and overbearing. What do you think?